Wedding Bells

Not mine! It’s theirs…

It is official, my brother is getting married this December!

He’s been engaged to his beautiful fiancée Ms. S since 29 June 2012.

Granted the preparations for their wedding are in full swings right now. Ms. S and I has been talking a lot about the “Sisters Gowns” for myself and her oldest sister down to the dresses for our mothers. We just spent our Sunday visiting the bridal salon they had chosen.

Wedding is a huge thing in Indonesia. It’s a celebrations shared by the whole family.

So I was happy and touched when Ms. S asked me for my opinions on some of the stuffs for their dream wedding.

Seeing her trying on the wedding gowns, I got secretly choked up inside. Emotions washes over me in big waves. Luckily, I managed not to shed a single tear seeing how amazingly beautiful she looks like. Of course some of the gowns just wasn’t her style but it was fun and the moment she tried on The ONE that really look like it was especially made for her, I got chocked up again secretly.

My brother was standing in one corner just watching the whole thing and didn’t say much. I guess that’s normal for men to not say much right? Hah!

Anyway, in our culture, it’s perfectly ok for the Groom to be to see the wedding gown before the big day. Unlike in America per say.

My mother agreed that Ms. S had found her gowns for the wedding. Time to seal the deal.

While they were busy discussing and dealing with the marketing agent from the bridal salon, I quietly went downstairs with A. I had to get some fresh air and calm myself down.

I’m still trying to figure out what made me got that emotional…

Maybe it’s the fact that I never get to experience any of the ‘normal’ wedding preparations like what my brother and his fiancé. That this will be the first ‘real’ wedding my parents get to throw. I never once try any wedding gown. Of course being a girly girl, I used to dream of my own wedding long way before I got married in a very simple way in Upstate NY. There was no invitations, no reception, it wasn’t like I imagined it would be but that’s what happened.

My heart aches a little…and I took a deep breath. As the big sister, I couldn’t be happier for my brother and his fiancé. She’s a great girl and I think they are so good together. My little brother is getting married…that’s a whole emotional feelings on its own right there.

Mommy!!! Look at those smoke. What are they doing?” That little boy brought me back to reality as he stood there totally mesmerized seeing smoke coming out of the small Chinese temple right across the street from the bridal salon.


There he is, the most beautiful thing that came out of my non-traditional rebellious way of getting married and peace came swept over me in an instant.

These upcoming months leading to December will be so full of wedding preparations than I will ever experienced and I am happy, I am excited for this beautiful couple. I’m pinning wedding photos ideas on Pinterest not for me but for them as I’m sure I will try to get some candid shots too on their big day.

Congrats brother! These whole journey is stressful, I can just tell by talking to them but you guys will do great and that big day is just around the corner.

How is wedding preparations in your country? Or your own wedding prep madness? Care to share some tips for these love birds and prevent Ms. S from turning into a bridezilla? (insert big huge wink to her here – I’m teasing you, girl!)



  1. September 10, 2012 / 1:32 pm

    Congratulations to your brother and his fiance. I have never known an Indonesian wedding, I will be closely following your brother’s through your blog, so hopefully you update us all through this 🙂
    My younger bro got married 2 years ago and let me tell you, it was a lot of fun for me and Ashwin. I am sure you and Alex will have a great time.

    • September 13, 2012 / 3:00 pm

      Thank you Purnima for the kind words. I will be writing more about their upcoming wedding that’s for sure. I’m sure my son and I will have fun too and I can’t wait to see how it all turns out at the ceremony and reception. Indonesia have so many different cultures, but luckily since my brother’s fiance came from the same tribe, I think we skipped the drama like many different tribes wedding faces hahaha.

  2. September 11, 2012 / 3:36 am

    So exciting that your brother is getting married! Even though you didn’t have a traditional wedding yourself, in a way this gives you a chance to be part of a traditional wedding – not the same exactly, bur almost. By the way, your son is so cute. He is going to grow up to be such a handsome boy!

    • September 13, 2012 / 3:03 pm

      Thank you so much Maria! I’m so thankful my soon-to-be sister in law let me in and get me involved too although I try not to go overboard with it, I’m just glad to be a part of it. Oh that boy is growing up way too fast, sometimes I wish we could just hit a pause button for a bit lol. Thanks again, Maria 🙂

  3. September 12, 2012 / 3:33 am

    Hi Maureen,
    Congratulations to the soon-to-be-married couple. They’re a nice couple. I guess you scared the bahoodles out of everyone with that blog post title. Talk about an effective name for a post.
    Ok, marriage in Holland. Basically you can go anywhere from ‘just signing papers’ to an ‘all out extravaganza’ , based on – yup there it is – the money you are willing to spend. In Holland you can do two marriages at the same time with the same person. What I mean is, marry ‘for the law’ and – optionally – for church. In both you have to make your vows…
    It’s going a great experience for both them and you. You got your work cut out for you!

    • September 13, 2012 / 3:06 pm

      Hahahahaha Jan, you’re so funny! Yeah, I figured that out right after I hit published. I have to say you’re the one with the awesome creative titles for blogpost so thank you for inspiring me 😉
      That’s very interesting, Jan…wedding in Holland. Here people do the church (religious service) first then a few hours later the receptions big receptions with hundreds of people. It will be one hell of a long day for all of us but it will be fun. Bedankt, Jan! 😀

  4. September 12, 2012 / 10:22 am

    Congrats to your brother – what an honor to be the great Big Sister! I know what you mean about NOT having the traditional preparations, but when there’s so many people willing to tear your marriage down before it begins, how could you not be humble about it, right? I’m no Diane Keaton, but something’s gotta give.

    • September 13, 2012 / 3:10 pm

      Thanks you awesome you! Oh believe me, I understand why my poor soon-to-be sis in law got so stressed. So many things to prepare. Yikes! Plus, considering the elderly inputs/advices too…she and I had a good laugh when we see a sample of wedding pictures on Pinterest and see a bride with her bridesmaid sitting in a bar getting wasted. I told her that’s such a funny picture but our elders will kill us all if we dare do anything close to that hahahaha.

  5. September 12, 2012 / 10:22 am

    P.S. : Little A has grown to be quite the young man!

    • September 13, 2012 / 3:11 pm

      Aww, thanks, girl! He’s growing up way too fast I miss his toddler self a lot.

  6. September 14, 2012 / 7:14 pm

    Oh, how you capture the bittersweet of this.

    Your heart is lovely, and that shines through, lovely you.

  7. September 16, 2012 / 7:20 am

    Big thing in Poland, too.
    I was the only one in my family who didn’t have a wedding, and my heart aches a little, as well.

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