I became an aunt last November.
In my family, because I am the eldest, my brothers’ children will be calling me Mama one day. Well, officially it should be Mama Tua (loosely translated means Older Mama) but being the rebel that I am, I told my brother and sister in law that my cute little niece shall call me Mama Oyen* instead of Mama Tua.
Having a niece also means my boy’s status has been bumped up to be “Kakak” (big brother). My boy who’s been the only child and the only grandson for 7 years now have a cousin to share his grandchildren status with. We joked about how Alex will now share the spotlight with his little cousin.
And sure enough all of us even down to my tattooed little brothers fell in love with Little Miss Letisya aka Tisya, hard!
Yes, my boy have a step brother from his Daddy that he sees from time to time and I heard nothing but how wonderful he is to his little brother. But seeing it with my very own eyes, well that’s different.
Becoming an aunt is amazing! Especially for the first time. I never thought I could love a little baby that’s not my own that fast and that hard.
Despite my mother’s objections, I was adamant to teach Alex to be independent as I truly feel it’s important for him to be able to do things on his own, not to rely so much on others. Even if that means we are starting at an early age. My mother once made a remark that when my brothers and I were that little? We never have to do anything remotely close to what my son has been doing. I told her it’s a different generations, so things are changing.
One of the things I’m teaching my son is to make his own sandwich. He’s been making it without any help for a few weeks now. So to see this?
It truly made my day when my sister in-law mentioned me on Instagram few days ago. Bless my son’s heart, his loving heart.
Yet nothing prepares me for the magic of watching Alex and baby Tisya interacts together.
Seeing them interacts together made me all choked up thinking of how wonderful he would be as a big brother.
It pulled a part of my heart that reminds me of how much I want another baby. Until then, until the time is right…I know I am on the right path with nourishing my body with healthy meals. When the time comes, I know my body will be ready to house a new baby. I am trusting my own journey in healing and until then I am keeping my joy in witnessing these two cousins forms their lovely bond together.
Those two moments were my Happy Mama moment lately. What’s yours?
This post is part of the awesome Happy Mama Movement spearheaded by the awesome ladies at The Dude Mom, The Elaineous Life and Jennifer P Williams.
PS: *Oyen is my nick name