The Happy Mama Movement – Cousins

I became an aunt last November.

In my family, because I am the eldest, my brothers’ children will be calling me Mama one day. Well, officially it should be Mama Tua (loosely translated means Older Mama) but being the rebel that I am, I told my brother and sister in law that my cute little niece shall call me Mama Oyen* instead of Mama Tua.

Having a niece also means my boy’s status has been bumped up to be “Kakak” (big brother). My boy who’s been the only child and the only grandson for  7 years now have a cousin to share his grandchildren status with. We joked about how Alex will now share the spotlight with his little cousin.

And sure enough all of us even down to my tattooed little brothers fell in love with Little Miss Letisya aka Tisya, hard!

Yes, my boy have a step brother from his Daddy that he sees from time to time and I heard nothing but how wonderful he is to his little brother. But seeing it with my very own eyes, well that’s different.

Becoming an aunt is amazing! Especially for the first time. I never thought I could love a little baby that’s not my own that fast and that hard.

Mama Oyen & Tisya

Despite my mother’s objections, I was adamant to teach Alex to be independent as I truly feel it’s important for him to be able to do things on his own, not to rely so much on others. Even if that means we are starting at an early age. My mother once made a remark that when my brothers and I were that little? We never have to do anything remotely close to what my son has been doing. I told her it’s a different generations, so things are changing.

One of the things I’m teaching my son is to make his own sandwich. He’s been making it without any help for a few weeks now. So to see this?

 Sweet Boy

It truly made my day when my sister in-law mentioned me on Instagram few days ago. Bless my son’s heart, his loving heart.

Yet nothing prepares me for the magic of watching Alex and baby Tisya interacts together.

Seeing them interacts together made me all choked up thinking of how wonderful he would be as a big brother.

It pulled a part of my heart that reminds me of how much I want another baby. Until then, until the time is right…I know I am on the right path with nourishing my body with healthy meals. When the time comes, I know my body will be ready to house a new baby. I am trusting my own journey in healing and until then I am keeping my joy in witnessing these two cousins forms their lovely bond together.

Cousins Love

Those two moments were my Happy Mama moment lately. What’s yours?

This post is part of the awesome Happy Mama Movement spearheaded by the awesome ladies at The Dude Mom, The Elaineous Life and Jennifer P Williams.

PS: *Oyen is my nick name



  1. January 30, 2014 / 9:37 pm

    Soooo cute! I love babies, everyone has been having babies lately. I didn’t know you didn’t use Aunt but Mama instead.

    • February 1, 2014 / 9:20 am

      I feel the same way about everyone having babies lately lol. It’s a cultural thing from my mother’s side of the family. All my cousins (I’m the eldest grand kid) call my mother “Mama” and now it’s my turn lol.

  2. Saundra Rohn
    January 30, 2014 / 10:03 pm

    So many beautiful beginnings in your life ❤️ You are great mommy and congrats on being a Mama Oyen!
    Love you dear daughter,

  3. Saundra Rohn
    January 30, 2014 / 10:07 pm

    So many beautiful beginnings in your life ❤️ You are great mommy and congrats on being a Mama Oyen!
    Love you dear daughter,
    I smiles all the way through the video

    • February 1, 2014 / 9:22 am

      Thank you Mom 🙂

  4. January 31, 2014 / 12:28 am

    I love that you explained the name tradition. I think it’s so wonderful to have such an awesome family bond! Your little boy and little niece are so adorable!

    • February 1, 2014 / 9:24 am

      Thank you so much Britt! I am truly blessed with such a bond with my family and to see my son forms such a bond with his little cousin is truly amazing 🙂

  5. January 31, 2014 / 12:32 am

    What a lovely post. Your son is a sweetheart! I just visited with a good friend who has a three month old and it made my womb ache. And, I’m with you on the self-sufficient independent child thing. So glad to have found you through the Happy Mamas!

    • February 1, 2014 / 9:44 am

      Oh the womb ache, I’ve been having lots of those lately.
      Thank you for visiting. Great to connect with you.

  6. January 31, 2014 / 1:31 am

    I love how much joy you find both in being a mother and being an aunt. It’s just plain HEART warming. 🙂

    • February 1, 2014 / 10:20 am

      Thank you Angie 🙂

  7. January 31, 2014 / 7:07 am

    Congrats on becoming an Auntie and on raising an independent, loving ‘lil guy!

    • February 1, 2014 / 10:27 am

      Thank you, my friend 🙂

  8. January 31, 2014 / 10:07 am

    Oh, congratulations! I enjoyed this because your love for both roles is so evident.

    • February 1, 2014 / 10:27 am

      Thank you Aernebya 🙂

  9. January 31, 2014 / 10:25 am

    Hooray for new babies! And cousins. Totally a good reason to be happy!

    • February 1, 2014 / 11:38 am

      Thank you and thank you for spearheading such a great movement online! Love, love, love it! 😀

  10. January 31, 2014 / 12:23 pm

    Congrats on being a first time auntie! It is so beautiful to see the cousins bonding for the first time! My kids are incredibly close to their cousins and its such a blessing!

    • February 1, 2014 / 11:40 am

      That’s so lovely, Gracielle!
      I grew up very close to my cousins too so it’s always great to see that kind of relationship for our children isn’t? 🙂

  11. February 1, 2014 / 9:09 am

    Congratulations on the new addition to the family! Tisya is so beautiful! I can’t believe how alert she is. I love the picture of Alex with her. He will make a wonderful big brother. You take such wonderful care of your body that when you are ready I’m sure things will work out. I do want to hear a lot more about your diet. I’m trying to understand. I think I saw it once but what book do you recommend I read?

    • February 1, 2014 / 11:48 am

      Thank you so much, Carla!
      She’s quite a feisty little girl and refused to be carried in a typical newborn holding unless she’s nursing. Babies these days, fascinates me. LOL.
      Your kind words really warm my heart, Carla. Thank you. I will blog about my diet soon, promise 🙂
      I’m currently reading Raw Can Cure Cancer by Janette Murray-Wakelin.

  12. February 1, 2014 / 9:42 pm

    Isn’t it wonderful being an aunt. I don’t know what it is, but it is so fulfilling and happy.
    I think that you shouldn’t let others dictate how you raise you’re children and you are not. I love that about you. We have to do what is best for our children and no one knows that better than the parent.
    My uterus wants a baby to inhabit it.
    Not now or ever but it does dream about it.

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