On Finding My Voice

Breakfast in Santorini
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Although blogging isn’t really a new thing for me, taking it seriously is. Besides learning the use of WordPress, its CSS code and many plug-ins – it’s been fun.

When I think about niche tho that’s when I seems to be falling out of the ‘normal’ categories. There’s plenty of successful mommy blogger out there that inspires me. But I’m not a homeschooling mommy, my blog doesn’t revolve around my little man – he’s a huge part – but not the only part, doing craft really isn’t my thing, cooking? Well, my cooking constitute of survival instincts only. I love photography but I’m still a novice. Traveling has been low this year but I write whenever we do go places.

There are plenty of mix marriages (specifically Indonesian – Western mix) out there but only a few really blog seriously.

So which niche do I belong to?

Then there’s a whole thing about finding your ‘true voice’…one of the best constructive critiques I received recently is about my tone being monotone. Since then I’ve been thinking about how to make my ‘true voice’ shines through these mere words I’m typing.

“Like a chat between friends over coffee…”

That’s how I want to write but it’s sometimes hard to get that voice across since – again and I hate using this as an excuse – English is my second language. Never in my life did I take writing class although I wish I did when we were still living in the States. Yes, I had dreams in English but living back in Jakarta means my daily interactions are mostly in Indonesian although I speak English with Lil’ A & my fiance.

I crave to write like those other lady bloggers that I admire, witty, sharp with a good dose of sarcasm and fun to read. Not boring and monotone.

“Like a chat between friends over coffee…”

When I think about it, my mind immediately run to when I chat with my BFF, Kris. She lives in San Diego with her beautiful family. Met her online and we’ve been BFF ever since. Sometimes we’d talk over the phone or just chat online and the conversations just flow naturally. I want to be able to write the way I talk with her but then I might have to censor some stuffs hahaha. *wink at ya, Kris! ;)*

Hmmm…I guess we really can be our worst critique. Until I find my real voice I shall continue writing the way I feel like it. 😀

How do you find your voice?



  1. May 18, 2010 / 9:56 am

    I have a hard time keeping my voice consistent. I hope I can figure out how to do that at some point!
    .-= gigi´s last blog ..Birthday Cake Smackdown, 2010 =-.

    • May 19, 2010 / 10:45 am

      I’ve struggle to find my real voice then how to be consistent so I think it’s a learning process after all but yours are great, Gigi I mean I love how you write, your words ‘speaks’ to me naturally 😀

  2. May 19, 2010 / 10:38 am

    It took me a while to start my blog not so formal. But its still somthing I struggle with. I would love to feel more comfortable on the net with my true corky self. Well it gives me something to gage my progress.
    .-= Julia´s last blog .."The Fast And The Furiest" Free Quick Page =-.

    • May 19, 2010 / 10:47 am

      Me too Julia, it’s harder to ‘translate’ a tone so it appears naturally. Hopefully I’ll get to that point soon 😀 Thanks for the visit!

  3. May 20, 2010 / 6:40 am

    I like your blog-I think it’s interesting! And I don’t have a Niche really either. And I was just telling my husband, I mean literally just telling him, that I feel like my blog is going no where b/c I don’t have a niche, I don’t have a custom design, I don’t have a button, I don’t have this & I don’t have that. This post made me happy that I’m not the only one who is their worst critic!

    And I think you write great! Especially for english being your second language! There is no way I could write a blog in Spanish, no way!

    And I like how you said you used to dream in English. Whenever I try to explain to people that sometimes I dream in Spanish they look at me like I’m crazy–but seriously, people don’t always dream in one language if they speak two or more!
    .-= Kate´s last blog ..YES! =-.

    • May 20, 2010 / 1:11 pm

      Kate, thank you so much for your comment. Not only that your comment gave me the boost of confidence that I need as I’ve been a little down in the past few days thinking “I feel I don’t belong” or “No body really like my blog”… bla bla bla. So thank you…yes we really are can be our worst critique.

      It is hard for non-multilingual people to even comprehend the idea of dreaming in other language but it does happens. My son can describe his dreams in two languages hahaha.

  4. May 20, 2010 / 7:33 am

    We don’t really fall into a niche either. Certainly not a mommy blog but we talk about our kids. I guess if there was a category of “real” that’s where we’d be. I think that of you too. Plus, you are writing in your second language. wow. I struggled through 2 years of French and could never imagine writing a sentence now. As with everything, writing improves with practice. You are doing great, my friend!

    • May 20, 2010 / 1:13 pm

      Kerry, I like that category…”real” and you are one of the people that I admire for being and keeping it real on your blog. Thank you so much for your support, I really can be too hard on myself because I want to be better, writing in English if it’s a second language to you can be hard but I do noticed when I read my old blogs that my writing has improved although I strive to be better, at least to a native level.

  5. Erin
    May 21, 2010 / 3:09 pm

    Your English is very good. Better than some native-English speakers I know 😉 I find my voice by staying true to myself. On any particular day, that voice may be funny, might be emotional, or perhaps simply business. But I am all of those things. Just stay true to yourself and your voice will come out in your writing.
    .-= Erin´s last blog ..Social Media for Mom Bloggers: Part 2 =-.

    • May 25, 2010 / 2:39 am

      Erin, I have to thanks my scary English teachers back in school days hahaha most Indonesians are better at writing than speaking (although I’ve been told that I sounds so American hahaha). I like that…having a voice that’s stay true to the core topic itself. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and visit!

  6. May 21, 2010 / 1:34 pm

    I struggle to keep it “real”. It’s hard to do sometimes, especially when dealing with a serious topic. It is a learning process, don’t beat yourself up. I’ve only been blogging a couple of months, but when I look back at the first few, I can already see the difference in my writing. Hang in there – I think you’re doing great 🙂
    .-= Natalie´s last blog ..Trucker Mouths & Flip Offs =-.

    • May 25, 2010 / 2:38 am

      Thanks Natalie, you are so right sometimes all it takes is a look back and we can actually see how much our writing has growing. Thanks for sharing and it’s good to know that it is a ‘normal’ blogging stage to feel this way as part of the learning and growing process.

  7. May 25, 2010 / 1:08 pm

    I don’t have a niche. My blog started as a record of my running then slowly morphed into something i like to call The Divorce Diaries!
    Your voice is your inner dialogue. The intricacies that weave their way out of your brain and onto the page.

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