As single moms, a new year can be a perfect time to set up some goals and resolutions. Here are some ideas that you can choose.
10 New Year’s Resolutions for Single Moms
- Take care of You
Flying solo as a single parent is hard enough but sometimes it is so hard to put ourselves first before the children. Yet I truly believe to be able to fully function as a single mom, we need to take care of us first. Remember how flight attendants always remind you if you are flying with children and the cabin pressure drops, you must put the oxygen mask on yourself first before assisting your children? The same principle applies for us, single moms. Feed yourself with things that enrich your soul and make you become a better mother to your children.
- Be Truly Present
When you are with your children be truly present. Put aside the phone – I know I am still managing this part too – and engage with your children fully. They will absolutely love the moments you devoted to them. As single moms, we juggle so many things, so when we can create quality time with our little ones, it is best to be completely present.
- Learn to Say No
It is so easy to get ourselves overstretched with work and with our kid’s activities in school. If you feel like you cannot possibly be involved 100% in your children’s school “Family Day Committee” then by all means be upfront and tell them you cannot participate and do not feel guilty about it.
- Unpack Your Baggage
This may very well be the hardest thing to do. After your divorce/separation, there will be emotional wounds and maybe unresolved issues that you tried to hide because God knows you already have way too much to handle at this stage, but this year try to make an effort to deal with you emotional baggage. Make this year a year towards healing.
- Find Deeper Friendships
Sometimes friends come and go just like seasons of our lives. If you realize some friendships do not serve you anymore or only cause you anxiety then maybe it is time to let that friendship go. Make time to meet new people and possibly develop new friendships the kinds that fuel your soul this year.
- Realize You Cannot Do Everything on Your Own
Realizing you can’t do everything on your own is a big realization but one that is important to acknowledge. Graciously accept the help offered by the other moms from school when they extend it. Be grateful and try to reciprocate in the future. Identify those who are willing to help you out.
- Pursue Your Passion
Be it writing, blogging, designing, find time to grow your passion. Who knows, it may lead you into making an income.
- Support Other Single Moms
If you have been a single mom for awhile it means you have more experience than the newly separated. Join support groups and offer your insights.
- Be Grateful
It is so easy to feel overwhelmed being a single mom, but once in awhile, we need to stop and just inhale. Take a deep breath and count our blessings. Participate in the 100 Days of Happiness Project or start a gratitude journal.
- Focus on the Positive
Concentrate on what you have in common with other people more than what is different. Act positively, think positively and do your best to maintain feeling positive. This will take some practice but with time we can train ourselves to be positive. You can do that by looking for positive outcomes, positive experiences, and approach things in a positive way.
If you have any ideas to add to this list, please let me know in the comment box below.
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