Mrs. Bule oh Mrs. Bule

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That’s the line that’s been brimming in my head in the past few weeks – especially since I’ve been dealing with this special lady – at work.

Her continuous rudeness caused me to finally spoke up and told her that I am not her maid and what she’s asking me to do isn’t part of job description, but if she would’ve ask me nicely, chances are I’d be happy to help out. That stopped her cold from her high throne. Let’s hope she’ll watch her manners with me from now on.

Really…I don’t understand what makes some women thinks that just because they are now bar graduated Mrs. Bule that they could treat others with such disrespects?

I was once a Mrs. Bule myself, but that doesn’t make me go boss others around like a maniac and be rude. I never ask my ex’s secretary to call him…I can do that myself, thank you very much!

This kind of behaviors got me thinking…

Does these women thinks now that they have a bule husband,  some loads of cash then they are way better than everyone else? They need to show their power by barking orders and snap at them. Or does it really boils down to insecurities they have inside? Insecurities that others are out there to snag their husband because secretly they know chances are their husbands will have affairs one way or another?

Could it just be that their attitudes are bad in the first place? Could very well be but my God, dealing with these kinds of Mrs. Bule takes a lot of patience!

Mrs. Bule…if you are reading this please take into considerations that others have feelings too and you really doesn’t have to yell and snaps at every body especially to the people at your husbands office. Plus really, it won’t hurt you to be nice and treating others the way you wanted to be treated, right? I think it is just common sense that one will get no further with their rudeness. This is probably why lots of these employees sneered at you behind your back and justify the labeling that all Mrs. Bule are bitchy!

Have you ever met these kinds of Mrs. Bule? How did you deal with them and their attitudes?




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  1. December 16, 2010 / 10:21 am

    hm, i think..
    i’ll keep my self away from her, hehehe…

    • Maureen
      December 31, 2010 / 3:48 pm

      Good on ya!

  2. December 16, 2010 / 11:49 am

    Hope this Mrs. Bule lady gets a life, and leaves you alone! I have met a Mrs. Bule, and I stopped her cold in her tracks. She thought just because her husband was my boss that meant she would boss me, an executive around. Well I was ready for her. I reminded her that she was not qualified to do my job, nor was she qualified to do whatever it was she was doing, so I would not allow her to boss me nor my employees around. Sadly she was pregnant, but me being a mother too, I had to remind her that pregnancy was no excuse. And I ended it by politely kicking her a$$ out of my office. Needless to say, her hubby (my boss) was pissed. But I still had a job, and she stopped coming into the office playing like she knew anything about our line of work.
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    • Maureen
      December 31, 2010 / 3:49 pm

      This one terrorizing me over the phone hahaha. I’ve been having a quiet few weeks while she’s away with the family for the holidays. Her husband isn’t even my direct boss and it just pissed me off the way she’s so rude to me and to everyone I know of.
      Great way to handle it, girl! You my friend, rocks! 😀

  3. December 19, 2010 / 1:21 pm

    I personally haven’t had this happen since I am in the military but what I can say is I don’t see it happening in the future since I am using my service to get my education and position myself where I won’t be working for anyone’s husband but might have a few of those husbands working for me. I want to be the boss I don’t want to work for him. I get bossed around enough serving my country but as soon as I am out there won’t be any confusion who the boss is but that is just my 2 cents. I personally don’t take a lot of stock in women that get their status off of educations and jobs their husbands have I personally am all about the self made women the ones that can compete with any man and if he leaves her she has her own education and skills to fall back on. So when the “Mrs. Blues” of the world come along I look at them and think how quickly their worlds can change if they don’t have their own educations, careers and back up plans, now there is nothing wrong with being a housewife but its not going to pay any bills if the man happens to pick up and leave her for someone younger or more career driven and ambitious. So Mrs. Blue can become real blue real quick if she doesn’t have her own.
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    • Maureen
      December 31, 2010 / 3:52 pm

      Hi Danielle, thanks for joining in the conversation.
      Kudos to you for serving the country!
      Yes, I thinks these types of ‘wifey’ will not last long if they have to move back to their husband’s countries and live a normal regular people’s lives (read: no maids, no drivers etc). They won’t survive with that kind of attitudes.
      Love your comment hahaha!

  4. December 19, 2010 / 8:04 pm

    Mrs.Bule or not, there are women out there who exist to make other people’s lives miserable, and sadly to say, they are everywhere, and there are at least two of these in every company in Indonesia. And that’s only in Indonesia.

    I prefer to think that these people are being bitches because they’re unhappy with their personal lives and they can’t stand seeing other people being happy, so they have to make others’ as miserable as theirs.

    Good job for taking a stand – otherwise she might think it’s okay to step all over you.

    • Maureen
      December 31, 2010 / 3:53 pm

      How true! And so spot on with the number, girl hahaha you are cracking me up as always.

      She stops bugging me but lets see what the new year will bring 😉

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      December 31, 2010 / 3:53 pm

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  6. December 21, 2010 / 10:21 am

    This kind of behavior is typical in the work force. I would just say that she is very insecure and regardless of education or even her husband for that matter, she is just unhappy.
    Keep that gorgeous smile and you will win in the end. My bet is her relationship with her husband isn’t secure either.

  7. Maureen
    December 31, 2010 / 3:55 pm

    Thank you Paul! It is insecurities for the most part. How sad really but I just have to deal with her (or others) that will come my way without loosing my cool although it’s hard sometimes lol.

  8. January 10, 2011 / 8:21 pm

    Ah Mrs. Bule.

    Never really encountered one in Jakarta, but a couple of short visit to KBRI where Mrs. Bules gather for monthly arisan are enough to make me drawing a distance with them. Never again :S
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  9. August 29, 2011 / 5:48 pm


    I love your blog :)) And yesss….I agree with you about this typical Mrs. Bule….ahhh lots of them here, can you believe it? Just today I was browsing around some pics on fb and can’t believe that some of those typical Mrs. Bule are very very very unbearable shallow and soo pretentious! I just don’t get it why? Just because you marry a bule then you feel you have more power than others??

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