In Two Languages

Before Lil’ A was born, Mr. X and I had made an agreement that we will both teach him our native languages. Meaning, I’ll be talking with him in Indonesian while Mr. X in English. Sounds easy right? Not so much!

When we were still living in the US, I have to admit that sometimes I speak to him in English simply because it’s easier to said things like “No!” or “Please, don’t do that…” than to say them in Indonesian. Living there means he’s more exposed to his father’s native language but that changed after we moved to Jakarta.

Although my families mostly understand and can speak English, it is of course much easier for them to talk in Indonesian. Lil’ A quickly picked up the language too in a lightning speed.

Living back in Jakarta did made me a little worry that he might ‘forget’ his English. Even after Mr. X convinced me that he won’t, I noticed his Indonesian getting better by the day. While Mr. X was still working in China and I mostly stays here I would be the one that speaks English with him although sometimes I still speaks in Indonesian. I’m trying to balancing his bilingual environments by speaking to him in English more and reading him books in English also Indonesian.

Maybe my worry wart self have to stop worrying about him forgetting his English because lately I noticed how he would always speaks in English to his father (sometimes he used bahasa for some words he didn’t know in English) even if his Daddy talks to him in Indonesian.

Alex, kamu bicara dengan Daddy bahasa Indonesia atau Inggris?” asked Mr. X one evening, it means Alex, are you talking to Daddy in Indonesian or in English?

The boy looked up, silent for a minute then with a huge big grin said “English!

I also noticed how he will speaks in Indonesian when he’s around my family or just talking with other Indonesian people. Even if they asked him in English he’ll reply in Indonesian. With me, he mixes things up…most of the times in English.

Being a ‘product’ of a mix marriage, I do not wish for him to grow up not mastering his Indonesian or English. I wish he would be fluent in both! Unlike some ‘artist’ whose Indonesian accent is so poor it became a national joke!

One problem I noticed Lil’ A is having is with the letter R. He’s used to the English way of pronouncing R which is rather soft, unlike in Indonesian where we roll our Rs. This has caused some people to teased Lil’ A when he says things in Indonesian with a soft R and I always have to remind these people they don’t need to make any remarks. Most Indonesian kids always have a hard time rolling their Rs in the first few years of their lives anyway. Second, it is wrong to make fun of little children in learning to master any language! He will eventually grow into it but let him do it at his own time. I never once criticized him from saying it the ‘wrong’ way…I will show him how to roll his R and he is trying but he just can’t master it yet.

Raising a bilingual child is not easy but it is doable and I’ve seen plenty of success stories from my friends who are in the same situation. Plus there are plenty of good reasons to teach our kids more than one language. According to the American Council on the Teaching of Foreign Language :

  • is beneficial to the development of problem solving abilities, memory skills, reading abilities, ability to hypothesize in science, and even mathematics*
  • correlates with higher academic achievement, including standardized tests and college level academic performance

I personally would add another advantages: it will allow the child to know and understand two cultures, of being able to communicate with a wider variety of people and of possible economic advantages in their future.

Trying to keep the balance is probably the key. To raise a child here with just one language like in English but does not introduce them to the native language…I personally thinks that’s just wrong. Why put a limit to our children’ capability of mastering more than one language?



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9 Comments on In Two Languages

  1. Sylvia, Jake and Matt
    March 30, 2010 at 3:24 am (8 years ago)

    What a smart boy. Jake gga bisa bahasa Indo sama sekali krn sejak umur 6 weeks, dia diasuh mertua saat aku kerja, sore baru dijemput. Matt aku ajarin bahasa Indo, tp sejak dia sekolah, dia prefer to speak in English. So, both of the boys speak English, Matt understands some Indonesian words but he has a hard time speaking in Indonesian.

  2. Tatter
    April 1, 2010 at 4:19 pm (8 years ago)

    Thank you Sylvia,
    Kalau soal anak kamu sih aku bisa mengerti yah karena emang environment sangat mempengaruhi kemampuan bahasa anak-anak. Yang aku suka sedih tuh ngeliat anak-anak yang pure Indonesian di sini tapi nggak bisa bahasa Indonesia karena sudah dibiasakan bahasa inggris dari kecil oleh orang tua. 🙂

  3. Wendy (The Local Cook)
    April 6, 2010 at 8:50 pm (8 years ago)

    Thank you for stopping by my blog! Your little boy is so cute, and will have a huge advantage being multicultural / lingual. I’ve always wanted to visit Indonesia.

    • Tatter
      April 8, 2010 at 7:22 pm (8 years ago)

      Thank you for stopping by too and your comment. You should come to Indonesia and explore the much delicious foods here 😀

  4. Me, Myself & Pie
    April 7, 2010 at 6:38 am (8 years ago)

    wow, it’s so amazing how quickly kids learn. Your son is super cute. Thanks for visiting my blog!

    • Tatter
      April 8, 2010 at 7:23 pm (8 years ago)

      Thanks for your kind comment too 🙂 I guess the saying about them kids are like a sponge is so true, my son quickly picks up new words almost daily LOL.

  5. Rachel
    May 2, 2010 at 8:38 pm (8 years ago)

    In Manila the kids of rich parents can’t speak Tagalog. Their parents talk to them only in English. It’s such a pity because learning numerous languages is a much-needed skill in life, and yes, in jobhunting too.

    • Maureen
      May 7, 2010 at 11:17 am (8 years ago)

      Same thing here Rachel, I noticed more and more rich kids doesn’t even speak Indonesians anymore and that is sad. Why limit their languages capabilities? And to forget about their native language is like you said such a pity. Thanks for stopping by and sharing.


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