Closer To The Altar

Wedding preparation is so stressful!

No, not mine!

My brother’s

The big day is slowly (or too quickly?) approaching. The whole wedding day op is now in a full speed and swing.

They had bumps along the way.

They worked it out.

Two families will be molded together from this holy union.

They finished their pre-marital counseling course at the church.

They did the obligatory pre-wedding photo shoots.

They decided on their wedding souvenirs.

They had to wiped out wearing chucks for the groom and his best men for fear that the two families will stone them!

Suits for the family has been tailored.

Dresses for the ladies are now waiting for final fitting.

Even my little boy got a suit custom made for him!

They did the ‘test food’ for the wedding reception venues.

They cut down invitations numbers.

My soon to be sister in law asked if people will response to RSVP if they put it on their wedding invitations. Sadly, I had to burst her bubble! Nope, that will not work here. Our culture doesn’t give a squint about RSVP-ing. To some people, you got the invitations that means you are all invited, you and your whole family! So there goes the RSVP idea being erased by our customs.

Weddings here can be so crazy. Good thing they are not doing traditional wedding that can be even more hectic with all kinds of different traditional ceremonies BEFORE the big day.

Witnessing and being involved with the whole preparations made my stomach turn. Seriously, it’s such a big thing!

It will be a crazy busy December in our family.

The wedding is on December 22, 2012. Church ceremony in the morning and reception in the evening.

December 21, 2012 there will be a family gathering at our house. It’s kinda like a bachelor/bachelorette party minus the strippers/firefighters. Instead, there will be prayers to wish these two a blessed union the next day.

Although deep in my heart I did wished I had experience a big all out wedding…but seeing this scared me!

The budgeting…

The tensions…


Auntie…IF I should ever get marry again. I would just fly to Bali for a destination wedding, ok?” I whispered to one of my aunts during the family meeting.

Hah! Yeah, just give me the plane tickets and we will be there!

We both giggled like two school girls.

But seriously, seeing how stressful the whole preparations is I am now convinced that IF I should get marry again, I wouldn’t want 300 invitations out and worrying if there will be enough food to feed all the guests. Some weddings here can go up to 500 invitations with decorations that cost so much money you could possibly buy a house!

Here, if the food is horrible at a wedding reception, that will be the first thing that people commented about! If the food is not enough, it will be a huge embarrassment for the family possibly leading to gossips.

Imagine the stress again?

Anyway, I pray that things will goes smoothly to the weeks leading to the big day.

Have you been to a big wedding? How do you feel about huge weddings?




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  1. November 7, 2012 / 12:58 pm

    Hi Maureen,
    I remember reading your earlier post about the upcoming weekend. I believe any wedding should be about the love two people share and not so much about the whole bunch of festivities surrounding the event. Depending on your culture / background you can not always get away with that though. – a small wedding. that is. When people have been married before, and start having a new relationship they come with some ‘luggage’, and maybe not always feel like having a big wedding.
    For a ticket to Bali I would marry Ypgi Near though.
    Q? Why are firefighters always asosiated with bachelorettes parties? Lol.
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    • Mo
      November 9, 2012 / 8:39 am

      LMAO Jan, you had me at the firefighters question…really good question tho’. Why is it always associated? Not sure hahahaha I never had one so I don’t think I’m qualified to answer that.
      Yeah, it’s really slippery slope sometimes seeing how many children wants to make their parents happy and follow traditions but they also doesn’t want to spend too much money in throwing a crazy expensive wedding. It’s tricky that’s for sure but I know I would want the destination wedding lol. Thanks Jan!

  2. Saundra Rohn
    November 8, 2012 / 9:54 am

    I am so happy for them! May God bless them as they become man & wife.
    I know the wedding will be beautiful and look forward to seeing the pictures.
    Can’t wait to see Alex in his suit.
    Love you

    • Mo
      November 9, 2012 / 8:39 am

      Amen! Thank you Mom 🙂
      We will have final fitting for the suits this weekend. Hopefully Alex will wear his suit long enough for me to take pictures 😀

    • Mo
      November 9, 2012 / 8:40 am

      LOL yeah that’s us, Indonesian! We do have beautiful cultures really when it comes to wedding but a lot of them nowadays are just impractical in my opinion.

    • Mo
      November 12, 2012 / 9:13 am

      Amen. Thank you for your prayers 🙂

    • Mo
      November 12, 2012 / 9:28 am

      LOL Thanks Maria, I think the planning can really create bridezillas lol.

  3. October 2, 2013 / 5:56 pm

    No big wedding for me. I invited all friends and family to the church, but only had my parents’ siblings and my cousins for the party. That was back in 2000 where everything was still affordable. We just went back to Surabaya last June, hilarious! Prices are like in the US. We decided to not shop so much 🙁 yuck.

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