Chosen Lifestyle

Did you know that there can be so much drama in just trying to live a healthy lifestyle? Yeah, neither did I!

When I first plunge myself into weight lifting, working out and healthy eating, I had no idea that there were so many controversies surrounding this new lifestyle of mine.

From the exercises side alone there are tons different ways to achieve what being fit and healthy is.

Such as the age old squabble between cardio first or resistance training first. This subject has been scrutinized and debated since forever and a day. Will it end anytime soon? I doubt it.

How about them egg whites VS egg yolks war? It seems every other day there’s new studies that backed each corners up.

There are a million things that are still debatable out there in the fitness world. One can easily get confused over these stuffs; I know sometimes I still get confused.


My own journey

Healthy living is a lifestyle of choice, one that is NOT a bandage. Not an ‘emergency plan’ to loose a few pounds – although lets admit it that would be nice huh? – but let’s focus on the bigger picture here.

It is a lifestyle.

Not because it’s a trend.

Not because it’s a fad!

Not because I want to copy cat someone else’s lifestyle.

My journey is MY journey. I owned it because there is no fitness journey that is a carbon copy of our idol, our friend, or whoever it is that you got inspired by.

Don’t get me wrong, it is of course good to be inspired by others who are more advanced than us. Heck, I got a serious crush on Jamie Eason and Chalene Johnson. Will I ever look exactly like them by following their programs? Hell no! Why? Because I’m not them!

This is not a one size fits all blueprint, ladies (and gents!)… If you put two people together doing the same programs, following the same diets, they will have different results. Why? Because our bodies are different! That’s why.

My herniated discs experience taught me to carefully listen to my body more. What used to be such simple basic moves now required me to focus 200% more, to mind my posture, to being super extra careful.

I’m still weary about trying a heavy load of deadlifts. Seriously, I wouldn’t want to aggravate my back. The sciatica pain was a total nightmare!

I was told to STOP squatting but guess what? I’m doing them again now with better posture not with crazy load of weights.

Herniated discs taught me to respect this injury, to work around it and to find what works and what’s not. Simple really and that’s my journey. My own, not everybody else!


Any workout is better than no workout.” That’s what Chalene Johnson keeps saying on Chalean Extreme and I couldn’t agree more.

Yes, I am pro muscles. Yes, I no longer want to be stick skinny. I want to have big guns BUT as I learn to appreciate my injury, I realized NOT everyone can do it hardcore. Some prefer Zumba, some prefer to run on the treadmills, some prefer to jog outdoor. The options out so huge you just gotta do whatever works for you.

So what if my friends and I are the only girls in the weight room while other girls filled up the aerobic class? Does that make them less than me? No! They choose their workouts and if they are happy about it, so what? It is still way better than not doing any workout at all in my book! If they do ask questions I’d be happy to explain why I prefer to lift weights but I’m not gonna condemn that they will rot in hell for not lifting.

Hey, I do HIIT on the treadmill…15 minutes that killed me. That might not be some people’s cup of tea but I am enjoying it. It’s something new that I just recently added on my routine.

Of course you’d find me pinning fitness related stuffs, tweeting it out and share on Facebook. To me sharing is caring, plus I do re-read those stuffs. If that’s making me a health freak so be it but I’m not gonna condemn you for not wanting to lift weights and do deadlift.


Who am I to judge what works for you? Your workout got nothing to do with me. It’s between you and yourself. Period!

Let us not be a fitness snob. My God, please don’t even go there!


To listen to friends telling me that I had inspired them to start eating healthy and to workout more gave me such joys. There are several close friends of mine who had decided to embark on this journey too and you bet I will be very supportive to them. They asked me questions which I happily answer if I happen to know the answer. Just the way I often ask questions to others in higher leagues than me.

What I never anticipate was how there would be haters out there. Well, guess it’s obvious they do exists by now.

Those who doesn’t understand my way of living often says things like “But your way of eating is expensive!” but it’s because they don’t know that it doesn’t have to be expensive. Not because they are hating. There’s a difference between uninformed and pure haters. The uninformed can still change their minds once they understand what it’s all about. The haters? Meh!

Clearly, I understand that not everyone will jump into the supportive band wagon and cheering me on. I’m doing this for me anyway not for praise or anything.

IF this journey would inspire others, heck, why not? If I could touch one people’s life and see how hard they worked, they ended up inspiring me too. See the cycle? I’m not going to get on a high horse and preach that everyone should follow this lifestyle. Although I do advocate it, again it is an individual journey. Your conscious decisions to start something like this. Not mine, not everybody else’s.

I don’t want haters, toxic, negative people in my life and this is why I’m declaring it here, in my own blog that I want a drama free life. I’m giving the haters some spotlight here so they know that they are actually pushing me to do better on this journey.

Should the haters accused me of copying someone else’s lifestyle so let them!

While the haters busy hating, I will be over here busy working hard, having fun and living my life with joy.haters

Have you got some haters before? Tell me about them 🙂




Lifestyle and travel blogger, founder of Single Moms Indonesia on a quest of finding joy in everyday life and living life to the fullest with kindness, compassion, grace and a bit of sass.

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  1. Aaron Ginyard
    February 22, 2013 / 1:16 pm

    Great article… I am just now understanding how things work. I do things according to what works for me. Everybody doesn’t appreciate this lifestyle and I’m okay with that…

    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:29 am

      Thank you, Aaron. I too am still learning while listening to my own body. True that and we are not out there doing what we do to convert others 🙂
      Keep up the good works, Aaron. You are doing fantastic!

  2. February 22, 2013 / 1:24 pm

    Living a healthy lifestyle is a choice and so is living an unhealthy life. Like with almost everything in life, how one is developing as an human being is based upon choices and the things that follow making those choices – the life-changing decisions a person makes.
    For a big part you shape what and how you are.
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    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:31 am

      Life is always a choice, Jan that is correct my friend and I agree with you, we shape what and how we are 🙂 Thank you for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. Always appreciate it.

  3. February 22, 2013 / 7:19 pm

    I think it’s wonderful that you’ve found this lifestyle that you clearly love, and you’re passionate about. Nothing wrong with that at all. I also love that you’re not pushy about it with others (so many people who “get healthy” do) – like you said, it’s their journey, not yours, and vice versa.

    Keep on keeping on, my friend, you’re doing great!
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    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:38 am

      You are always awesome, Alison!
      Thank you for that. I do find my passion in this lifestyle so much so that I have a few plans up my sleeves that I wish will take off 😉 Like you wrote, it’s wonderful to be able to do something we love and passionate about.

  4. February 22, 2013 / 9:57 pm

    I have to say that you look pretty amazing! I know that when I see your pics on instagram I feel a bit more inspired to get to the gym and do more!
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    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:40 am

      Aww thank you Jackie. You’re so sweet!

  5. emmy
    February 22, 2013 / 10:02 pm

    Honey Noone had inspired me like you did . Ive seen your transform for the last few months and I am so proud of how you become.
    Any work out is still better than not doing any work out. I love to see people work out , because for me I feel so much difference after I am back to work out lifestyle.
    Keep it up girlfriend. Lets keep on working out and enjoy life. Thanks for your support dear. Xoxo

    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:46 am

      You are such an awesome friend, Em!
      And you are doing fantastic, juggling work, business and a family and still manage to work out. You are an inspiration too. Thank you for always being there for me too. You and Scott are amazing!

  6. February 23, 2013 / 2:24 am

    Amen girl.
    I can’t do anything strenuous because all that’s holding my spine together is a sheet of metal. But I do what I can to stay active like stretching and minor strengthening exersices. Plus i walk everyday. You’re right that is a journey. You’re doing this for you and your health and that is so important. You strengthening all those muscles will help your spine. Go you gorgeous
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    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:48 am

      Oh damn, girl I can’t imagine the pain you have to go through but you I can tell you are active and that is awesome and important because you really helping your back by staying active. You, my friend kickass, truly!

    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:52 am

      Thanks, girl! Love your avatar picture 🙂

  7. February 25, 2013 / 10:20 am

    I don’t see why the haters have a problem with you living a healthy lifestyle. It would be worse if you didn’t care and lived an unhealthy lifestyle. Then they’d have reason to criticize you then, too. In the States it’s very normal for women to lift weights because that’s how you get toned muscles. Aerobics doesn’t quite give you the shape. A lot of women do both cardio fitness and weights. Doing weight bearing exercises actually helps to improve bone density to prevent osteoporosis so there are definitely benefits.
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    • Mo
      February 26, 2013 / 11:58 am

      I don’t know either to be honest, Maria. I try to live my life without bugging or hurting or harming anyone yet I still get people calling me a copycat, bla bla bla…it’s pretty funny and sad at the same time. Some people just have too much times on their hands I guess.
      Thanks, my friend 🙂

  8. February 28, 2013 / 12:36 am

    Lovely post Mo,

    That line “but your way of eating is so expensive”, I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard this and it’s just so frustrating. I like to think that eating clean is no more and maybe even less expensive than all the junk that most people put into their bodies.

    I mean, for the price of a trip to McD’s I can get an entire bag of fresh produce that will last a few days! Not to mention what I most likely won’t be forking over for unnecessary doctor’s visits, prescription pills and what ever else in the future.

    Keep doing your thing and ignore the haters, very inspiring before and after pics too!
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  9. March 1, 2013 / 10:20 pm

    Yep! You just gotta find what works for you. So glad you were able to work around your injury. Herniated disks are no joke! So many of the fitness programs now actually work in those exercises that strengthen your ligaments as well as the big muscles – yes, finally. You inspire me. Keep it up, you look fantastic!
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  10. March 6, 2013 / 9:09 am

    A great post! It’s been inspiring watching your transformation and I’m so proud of what you have achieved the past few months! It takes tenacity and as much I want to live more healthily, I find it so hard to get into just a simple exercise routine.. argh. So for me, a start is to work on the food we eat. Hopefully someday I’ll be able to successfully incorporate sports into my lifestyle. I really admire how you kept it going. Go gal!
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  11. March 7, 2013 / 3:10 pm

    Haters..ough they are everywhere. I never really pay too much attention on these kind of people they just don’t deserve my time he the way what is the connection of eating healthy with expensive?? If they feel eating at the restaurant expensive, make their own salad at home..lettuce + seared fish is not expensive home meal at all!
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  12. March 11, 2013 / 9:24 pm

    You’ll have the last laugh when your haters see how far you’ve come! I’m inspired by your determination and you’ve been an inspiration for me to keep movin! And yes I do cook my own meals and salads from time to time when I feel that the options are burning a hole in my pocket. Which is great too, since I can control what I out into my body. Keep going!
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