In over 8 year of motherhood, I still don’t have it all under control. I still lose my shit at times – well, ok a lot of times! Excuse my French.
My boy was born a premie at 35 weeks if you are new around here. From the panic of having a premature baby from a severe preeclampsia to cracked nipples and pumping constantly trying to increase my milk production to cluster feeding…the first few months were really rough.
Motherhood felt strange and weird. I wasn’t exactly embracing it with roses and rainbows.
Throw undiagnosed post-partum depression into the mix…
Motherhood is not always rainbow, bubbles and sunshine.
So to read something so honest, so true, so real I felt like I was sitting across from girl friend – wait make that mommy friend – who’ve been through what I’ve been through. Who understands and who successfully get out of the guilt trap of perfection that we Moms often put on ourselves.
Book Review: Lose the Cape
I read this book on my phone on my commute to and from work for two days straight. In the midst of my crazy commute, standing and swaying in the train between other women whom I bet majority are also Moms, I wanted to high five those women every time I read something that so relatable! Like the laundry battle part!
— Maureen Hitipeuw (@ScoopsofJoy) April 13, 2015
What I love most about the book besides how accurately it portrays the daily grind and stress of all moms? That they include us single moms! As you know being a single mom, sometimes we feel exhausted, stretched beyond our limits…so to read the fantastic tips coming genuinely from another fellow single moms? My heart felt light. Some of these tips are new to me so they really comes in handy.
One of my favorite take away from the book is the importance of me time. Something I have been struggling with as of lately since I’m back to the corporate world.
“Not everyone can afford or has the time to go on a girls weekend or see a therapist or get a massage. But, as we’ve tried to demonstrate, there are ways you can incorporate “me” time into your daily schedule.
Make “me” time a priority. It’s a must!” – Lose the Cape
Super Mom I am Not
Another reasons why I love the book? The easy way to read it, the non judgmental tones, heck, it felt like the book is a dialogue between two best friends that happened to be mothers! How awesome is that?! It leaves me feeling “Hey, I’m not alone in this motherhood journey!” The book leaves me with warm oozes feelings of bonding…the universal motherhood bonds. The book does not judge if you are a stay at home mom, a working full time mom, a single mom…deep down we are all mothers who try to do our best to raise happy healthy children and in the process of it…trying to keep our sanity, keeping our zen while yes, lose the cape. We are not in competition to be the mother of the year because we already are the best mothers we can be for our children!
Off I go to burn my mom cape…it’s only been doing me more harm in trying to compete to be the single mom who has it all together, well guess what? I’m not! Every day is a new day and I will welcome the chaos, the madness, the sweat, the tears also the joy of this motherhood journey.
Are you in?