Blog Envy

It Started With A Funk…

Yes, I’ve noticed the funk came back a few days ago. If you are a blogger you might not be a stranger with these feelings. You know moments where you questioned just about everything about the blogosphere and wondering out loud in your head if it’s worth it to put yourself out there.

I thought I was going to jump right back in the blogosphere wagon when I had my 30 days break from work. I tried…but I feel like since my niche has changed, since I have changed…things are now different.

No wait, I have a confession…I have some blogging envy.

When I started Tatter Scoops I didn’t know the secrets, the magic formulas to be a successful blogger. All I know is just writing. Read here for a great recipe by Alison from Mama Wants This for blogging.

Back then I got to ‘connect’ with many great bloggers out there. Some were newbie’s much like me. We learned about each other through our posts. We promote each others’ posts. It was good times. I invested so much times burying my self in blogging.

Then my world changed

Devoting my time to blogging fell off priorities list. Times I spend commenting on other blogs decreased. My days were just too chock full of work – home – work. Rinse and repeat. Even when I have domestic helper, after nearly 12 hours day of staring into computer screen…getting online sometimes is the last thing I wanted to do.

So now when I see these other bloggers who were newbies – just like me – have thousands of followers, thousands of readers, they went to conferences, they have lots of sponsors. They are now famous, I can’t help but feeling a bit envy…jealous even.

Yes, I am happy for their success, I honestly do but part of me is a bit jealous so don’t stone me for being brutally honest here.

These are the bloggers that truly has been doing everything ‘right’ to climb up the blogosphere ladder of success and I salute them. It takes a lot of commitment to take blogging seriously and kick it up a notch. Some conquer that spot in just mere months, some after a year or so.

Seeing their success made me see where I’m lacking…time to commenting, time to visit, time to be actively involves in bloggers community. Time to be fully committed to blogging. That, I don’t have much since I started working a year ago.

Maybe Being Ordinary is OKAY

Accepting that I might not have thousands of followers on this blog – while I do thanks my followers on Twitter – or I might never go to any of the prestigious blogging conferences is actually liberating in a way.

I am thankful enough for those of you who do read and commenting here. Really, it means a lot.

Maybe being ordinary in this vast blogosphere is actually OK. Nothing wrong with it, for the fuel that keeps this blog running is my love for written words, for expressing views, to channels these thoughts that sometimes would just be swept under the rug without this platform.

I’d like to think that this blog is indeed different…my stories are uniquely mine but to fully accept that I don’t have to try so hard to catch up with the big hot shots bloggers is actually a nice feeling. That it is OK to be where my blog is today.

Of course we all dreams to be big and honestly, who wouldn’t love that? But realistically we can’t all be Dooce or The Pioneer Woman, right?

So, I guess I’m fine with the small circle I have right now and knowing that these funks will come and goes and it is perfectly OK.

Do you feel your blog is growing in a rate you wanted it to be? Have you ever felt this blogging envy? How do deal with it?




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  1. October 14, 2011 / 7:28 pm

    Thank you for the shout out Maureen!

    Oh I think we’ve all been there with blogging envy. However, after I got over that, I decided to just focus on what worked for me. I have my readers and followers and friends and I’m happy with that. I write what I want, I love what I get out of blogging and that’s enough for me. Glad you have a healthy perspective on this!
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    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 6:51 am

      You wrote great pointers there Alison so thank you for sharing them 🙂

      Yes, I think to be able to feel content with what we have in terms of blogging is always great. The green may seems greener on the other side but like you I am happy with how things are right now. Appreciate you sharing your own feelings about this.

  2. October 14, 2011 / 8:33 pm

    Excellent post. I agree, I feel like this sometimes too. I feel like I know what I need to do to get my blog going, but there’s soooo many other things stealing my time away. Meanwhile others scale the ladder, and while you’re happy for them, part of you is like maaaaannn, I wish I would spend more time commenting and engaging in a community.

    Thanks for the honesty!
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    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 6:53 am

      Yes, I wish I have more times in a day too but maybe if I do, I’ll end up working longer and other things are going to take my time and blogging will suffer too. I guess it works for some more than others because of many factors but I shouldn’t complain just acknowledge there yes, there are times I would feel a little bit envy and that’s normal. Glad to hear I’m not the only one who feels this way 🙂

  3. October 14, 2011 / 9:24 pm

    Oh, how I could have written this post. Word for word. Sentiment for sentiment. Was in fact comtemplating blogging about my envy, but couldn’t bring myself to admit it, even to myself.

    Thank you for writing this – and letting me know I’m not the only one!

    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 6:57 am

      Aww thanks Liz, so glad to hear that it is indeed normal to feel the envy and it is part of being human I guess. We admire others’ success and sometimes wish we can get to their place too.

  4. October 14, 2011 / 9:39 pm

    The good news is that you’re getting bloggy love from all the right places. I came here from a retweet by @BiculturalMama.

    If you’re blogging about something you LOVE, something you’re PASSIONATE about, your joy will stem from the writing and the doing rather than from other people. Keep chasing your joy!
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    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 7:02 am

      Thanks Virginia! You put it so brilliantly…chasing our joy. I love that and should keep that as one of my mantra in blogging because you’re so right, it’s the love the passion that brought me to blog away. Thank you for visiting and your comment is just precious! 🙂

  5. October 14, 2011 / 10:23 pm

    Thank you for sharing. I know it’s difficult not to be a little envious sometimes. It’s natural, to get caught up in it all. But you seem to have a good perspective. I have been spending a lot of time on my blog and would love to connect more, but in reality we all have other responsibilities as well. We need to do what works best for us and our families. So I guess its okay to recognize somedays we may have blog envy, but it ok, but just make sure we remember what’s really important.

    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 7:14 am

      Hi Angela, thank you for sharing your own thoughts and perspective on this. I’m with you on putting what’s important in our lives first. Blogging is a passion of mine but yes we have other priorities and I had come to terms that it is OK not to be able to publish a post every day or to visit all the blogs that we love and comment. Just doing what I can and squeeze some free times to connect is good enough for me at the moment. 🙂

  6. October 15, 2011 / 12:36 am

    I love how honest your posts are – I think all bloggers have felt the same way at one time or the other. I, too, see other bloggers actually get PAID to write, or they get invited to the coolest events, or they even get picked up by the news or a magazine and become huge. But at the root of it all is why do we write the blog in the first place? For some it IS to be famous so they put 100% into getting there. For others like you and me there are other reasons, a larger purpose – a more personal purpose. And that’s cool, that’s okay. When I worked full time, I didn’t have my blog but I did freelance write about mom topics. I didn’t want to write at night after work because I was so tired, so I didn’t do it often (they dropped me, I didn’t write enough!). You’re your own boss with your blog so you can do whatever you want and don’t care what others think – this is your baby!
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    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 7:20 am

      Maria, thank you so much. Thank you for reminding me about that personal purpose…yes it would be nice to get all those ‘perks’ of being a successful famous blogger but at the moment I just can’t commit 100%. I can so relate to writing after work…my eyes would always be so tired (sometimes watery!) when I get home at night so I usually do my writing in the morning when I got to work and there’s not much work to begin with but when it’s busy I could go all day without even having a chance to check my Google Readers. This is my baby indeed…thank you for your words of wisdom, friend! You truly are a gem! 🙂

  7. October 15, 2011 / 2:08 am

    Know what you mean … being a busy working mom .. i sometimes go a whole week without even blogging let alone commenting and visiting blogs. Although If I had the time ..believe me I would do that !! Try to enter a couple of blog hops and then feel guilty coz I don’t even have time to return the visits .. so with you on that. Just blog when we can … comment when we can and visit when we can .. and don’t look at the greener side of bloggiing 🙂 Felt sooo good that am not the only one wishing i could do more !!
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    • Maureen
      October 15, 2011 / 7:31 am

      So glad to hear from other working moms, Sue! It’s really not easy because we do have our priorities and sometimes it feels like there’s just not enough times in a day to let us do the things we wish we could’ve done. The grass may seems greener on the other side but I’m happy with what I have right now 😀 Thanks Sue!

  8. October 15, 2011 / 2:30 am

    I have experienced the funk and the envy. but it does pass, I promise. Putting yourself out there, sharing your stories, and being honest about your feelings is really what blogging is all about – as long as you are doing that, you are a blogging rockstar.
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    • Maureen
      October 20, 2011 / 1:25 pm

      Hi Tracie, thank you for the support and your sweet words. I never see myself as a rockstar but your words just made my day 🙂 The core of blogging is really what you said, sharing and being honest. Thank you for the reminder.

  9. October 15, 2011 / 11:11 am

    I have been there. Many many times. I regret sometimes for not keeping up with blogging and instead taking a break when Ethan was born and not starting up again until he turned 3. Just realize that whoever has chosen to follow you and take the time out of their day to comment on your post love you.

    You are you and that’s all that is important!
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    • Maureen
      October 20, 2011 / 1:30 pm

      Thank you Sara, I truly appreciate and love seeing you here on my blog. 🙂 You rock!

  10. October 15, 2011 / 11:55 pm

    The blogging world is so interesting to me. As a newbie I often wonder how successful bloggers have the time to do this thing and succeed in their lives too. I was completely unaware of the blogging relationships to be made out here and love that you are able to put into words your experience that so many of us share. Found you from a retweet from @GDRPEmpress.
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    • Maureen
      October 20, 2011 / 1:32 pm

      Hi Andrea, thank you for visiting and sharing your thoughts. I too wonder about the same thing too. How to juggle it all…don’t we all wish we have more times, more pairs of hands…but then it means we’d just work even harder.

  11. October 16, 2011 / 5:30 am

    Are you quite possibly in mind mind right now? Seriously.Going back to work this fall has left me totally and entirely depleted. I come home and want to get on twitter. I want to read and comment. I want, I want, I want. But then? I start and stop after just a few minutes because I have too many things in my head. And the envy or jealousy? I know it well. I had to come to grips with being satisfied with my efforts and being happy for what I have done. Small things, but still worthy of me being thankful. so much love to you!
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  12. October 16, 2011 / 5:46 am

    Don’t be too envious! Think about it: aren’t there movie stars you read about and wish you were until you hear what jerks they are in real life? Blind ambition that precedes wild success rarely exists in the kind of people you admire for the right reasons.

    Followed you here from a retweet. I’m glad you know Alison@MamaWantsThis. She is good people.

  13. October 16, 2011 / 5:59 am

    This is the thing, sweet lady: the time that’s needed to grow a blog.

    Those that began in the blessed time of 2004 have big followings just b/c no one was blogging then.

    Now, we’re in a huge pot of like 100 million blogs or something.
    Also, people don’t comment b/c a lot read via phone, and can’t comment.

    AND: twitter has taken away so much of blog reading time.

    I think the key is being happy, like I know you are, with the support and connection and true love that anyone who comes here has for you.

    Time is diminishing: we are getting busier.

    And it takes work and visiting back and visiting everywhere to grow a blog.

    We love you, even if we’re not able to comment, we read you, we love you, you have a unique niche and true heart in our world.

    That’s why we hope you always be here, because of the beauty of your writing.

  14. October 16, 2011 / 8:12 am

    I’ve definitely felt it, but strangely, it reduced when I went to one of those big blogging conferences with all the famous bloggers and realized that they were all saying “Do it for love, not for success” — I realized I’m doing what I love, and no one can take that away from me. If the only people who read my blog are a few friends (like you!) and my family, I’m still spreading love in my little corner of the world, and that’s okay with me. Thank you for reminding me of that.
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  15. October 16, 2011 / 10:29 pm

    I hope this make you feel better… I ENVY YOU for being able to write enjoyable posts! and that’s TRUE.

  16. October 17, 2011 / 9:15 pm

    “That some achieve great success, is proof to all that others can achieve it as well.” – Abraham Lincoln
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  17. October 17, 2011 / 11:35 pm

    I just wrote a huge comment, but it timed out when I posted it so in case it’s still there I will do just a short one…

    Don’t look at other bloggers. It’s not always what it seems and many of them spend many hours each day to grow their blogs and sacrifice in other areas of their life. Many won’t admit it , but if you are a blogger you know what it takes unless you get really lucky in the beginning and find influential blogger and ride on their co-tails to success and traffic.

    Just be yourself. If you are passionate about blogging it will show and your success will come.
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  18. October 18, 2011 / 12:13 pm

    My sweet friend, we’ve all been there, and back there, and so on… Since I’ve started my blog I think I’ve “been there” a ga-zillion times! LOL But, looking at all the comments your post has I’d say you are excelling where some of the “bigger” blogs aren’t. They might have the numbers, but not many comments. Look at yours! You’re loved right here! 🙂 I love seeing you on twitter too!
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  19. I think we’ve all been there. The key is not to compare, IMO. Just like it’s important to to compare our homes to other people who have just done a remodel or read magazines (which start up real envy in me – I have to stay away from the.) When this happens to me, I find it best to stop reading other blogs, I go on an information diet and just sit and think why I am doing this, what is the purpose, see the good things and stay true to myself.
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  20. November 8, 2011 / 9:36 am

    HOW TRUE! I just wrote about this same topic in October and really questioned the purpose of my blog/value and everything in between. My belief: Blogging is popular b/c so many of us do it – not because a few people do it well.
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