Lifestyle and travel blogger, founder of Single Moms Indonesia on a quest of finding joy in everyday life and living life to the fullest with kindness, compassion, grace and a bit of sass.
Lifestyle and travel blogger, founder of Single Moms Indonesia on a quest of finding joy in everyday life and living life to the fullest with kindness, compassion, grace and a bit of sass.
If there is one hot button to set an Indonesian off, it would be religion.
Yes, I know the above statement is generalizing and not all Indonesians are that short tempered. Yet sadly, every day I see posts after posts on Facebook that talk about religious uproar and witnessing the spike of intolerances in this country.
Friends attacking each other – don’t even start with how people will virtually attack strangers online for speaking up against intolerance, for stating facts that God does not teach people to be violent.
Friends calling each other “kafir” (infidel) for not defending their religion or for deciding to be peaceful instead of spreading hatred. When my Muslim friends would say the true Muslim teachings are not what it has become today, they too got called infidels. How sad is that?
Not only on social media, I am deeply saddened to hear with my own ears messages of hatred being preached in places of worships. Places where one supposed to pray and get closer to God. This country seems to be shaken with so much hatred lately it is frightening.
I am a Christian by faith so that means in the predominantly Muslim populated country, my family and I are considered the minority. Please bear in mind that Indonesia is NOT a Muslim country even some Indonesians get this mixed up. Muslim is the majority religion here but our law recognizes Christianity, Catholic, Hinduism, Buddhism, and Kong Hu Cu. 6 nationally acknowledge religious beliefs. If you are an atheist then you are pretty much screwed – sorry, but that’s the truth. Religion is a must filled columns in just about every official Indonesian paper works.
Seems like there’s a looming dark cloud of hatred hovering above Indonesia at the moment.
How do I explain to my son when he asked: “Why don’t they let Christian people have their event, Mommy?”
How do I explain to my son when he asked: “Why they said kill Ahok, Mommy?”
When you hear little children shouting “Kill Ahok!” on the street, my heart shatters and I wonder what have we become as a country?
I cannot shield my son from the outside world and what’s going on in this country. Even when I don’t watch the local news anymore, my son can hear the preachers and he can hear my family talked about the issues.
For my non-Indonesian friends, Ahok is Jakarta’s governor who got himself in deep water from a religious accusation that he insulted Muslim. Ahok is a Chinese Indonesian and a Christian. The first Chinese descendent who hold the office as governor in Jakarta. He is a great leader in my eyes even when he is quite vocal. He has brought great changes in this city especially in fighting corruption.
All political reasons aside, I am one for peace. My most concern is how this has spiraled out of control. Religious injustice has a long history in this country, yet lately, it has escalated to the level that I can’t even comprehend anymore.
I am so concerned about our children’s future – no, I am scared about what kind of future the world will become if we don’t take a stand now! I don’t want my son to grow up where differences become justified license to kill each other. I don’t want my son to accept that minorities will have to be second class citizen always.
As a mother, I can only do these at home in hoping that my son will not get sucked into this cycle of hatred.
We would have less angry people in this world if we all teach our children tolerance.
There is still hope to create a better future for our children if we start from home. Come on, people we are better than this. Please, please, please let us say no to hatred!
[question]How would you teach your children at home about being tolerant? How can we raise our children to be the agents of change? [/question]
Let’s be honest Moms, the holiday is a special jolly time of the year we get that but with the kids out of school it also means time to entertain our little ones or suffer from headaches to keep them occupied! December can be both fun and chaotic at the same time.
To keep our crazy kids entertained, Nickelodeon has come up with a lot of fun activities to keep the holiday spirits high.
What You Need:
How to Make:
Step One: Measure the blue ribbon around the middle of one of the ornaments, cutting the ribbon where its two ends meet.
Step Two: Using the glue stick, secure both ends of the ribbon around the middle of the ornament.
Step Three: Glue two googly eyes onto the ribbon.
Step Four: You’ve made Leonardo! Repeat the first three steps to make the other turtles.
There you go, plenty of activities to keep our little ones happy. Do you have any favorite shows from Nick Jr?
Late last March I received an invitation to join Johnson’s Asia Baby Care Circle (ABC Circle)
Asia Baby Care Circle (ABC) is a community created by Johnson’s and they have chosen some of the best bloggers in Asia to join. It was an honor to be chosen as one of the Top 20 digital creators from across Asia including Japan, Korea, India, China, Indonesia, Philippines, Thailand, and Malaysia. Me and Astrid Satwika was chosen to represent Indonesia. Again, a huge honor. Thank you, Johnson’s!
Johnson’s envisions the ABC Circle to be a place for open dialogue between digital creators and the brand, as well as to provide exclusive access to the industry’s newest innovations and programs, aimed at delivering only the best for your little ones. ABC Circle members are helping Johnson’s to pioneer a unique, nurturing community where parents can share concerns and tips, learn from each other and the region’s industry experts on baby care, and pass on the newfound knowledge to friends and followers alike.
As mothers, we all have different opinions and unique voices and through ABC Circle, Johnson’s are all ears.
The first regional kick-off event was held in Shanghai, China last April 2016. All of ABC Circle members were flown to Shanghai, yours truly included.
I have to be completely honest with you, my dear readers that I am well aware of the rumors and lawsuit Johnson’s baby is facing in America. Yes, there are plenty of rumors flying around the lawsuit. Some mothers swore their baby off of any Johnson’s products from the cancer panic. Yet I decided to join ABC Circle and attended the event in Shanghai. Why? Because you truly cannot judge something until you investigate the stories in details, until you get all the facts straight and I thought what better way to get to know more than to go to the kick-off event.
In Shanghai, the topic of the lawsuit was immediately addressed by Johnson’s Senior Director Communication & Public Affairs, Asia Pacific. I was genuinely impressed that there is no PR stunt to divert the questions everyone was eager to ask. There was no “US versus Them” mentality. What we received were facts and explanations of how the class action lawsuit came to start. We got access to read studies shown that there is no scientific proof that the baby talc caused ovarian cancer. After a lengthy discussion of this hot topic, I came to a conclusion that cancer can happen to anyone. There are numerous external or internal factors that may cause someone to develop cancer. What we consume also plays a far greater risk to cause cancer than baby talc. Please do your own researches then decide yourself.
In the two days event in Shanghai, we visited the Johnson & Johnson Emerging Markets Innovation Center (EMIC) and Liquids Plant, where the science of baby came alive.
In the EMIC, the tour began in the mixing lab where formula prototypes are first created and refined by expert formulators. As we explored the sensory and clinical labs, the J&J Scientists demonstrated how new formula candidates go through some of the key stages of evaluation and testing. Rounding out the tour of Johnson’s quality and safety-focused product innovation process, we were given exclusive access to the center’s stability and packaging testing rooms where the J&J scientists shed light on the rigorous testing processes for every single product.
We did some exciting scientific experiments, where we not only put Johnson’s formulations to the test, but to also learn more about how delicate baby skin can be, and why it requires special care. The hands-on experience allowed us to discover the science behind each Johnson’s product through a point of view of us moms. We had the opportunity to get up-close and personal with expert scientists who allow everyone to ask anything. No question is too much to ask.
I came home with newfound respect for Johnson’s.
As the year come close to an end, I can honestly say my experience collaborating with Johnson’s through ABC Circle has been nothing but amazing! Truly one of the best highlights of 2016 and for that, I am extremely grateful.
Again, I am proud to be a member of ABC Circle and I wish this community plenty of expansions and successful growth in the coming years ahead. Thank you Johnson’s!
It’s that time of the year where I get fairly sentimental.
My son turned 10 today. Double digit milestones!
As he enters this new age, it means I’ve been someone’s mother for the past 10 years. A decade seems like a long time yet it seems to be flying by quickly. He grows right in front my eyes and now he’s almost as tall as me. Those long limbs…he must have got them from his father’s side plus my Ambonese family who are rather tall. That face, it changes again. The baby-ness is long gone. I still see his growth in wonders with a dab of slight panic that I am not ready to have a tween on my hands!
Hard to believe this boy was once a premature baby, born 5 weeks early than the due date. He was tiny! Now, seems like I couldn’t even get him pants without them hanging too short on his legs within a month or two.
We both have been through so much in this past decade. Our journey hasn’t been always sunshine and rainbows. There were drama, divorce, tragedies, and tears. Through it all, we also have created some really precious memories together. I haven’t exactly been the candidate for best mother of the year but my faith in this lifetime role as a mother got restored every single time my boy hug me. With every snuggle, with every kiss, I can safely say I am not such a bad mom after all.
One of his favorite past times is to see old baby photos and listen to me explaining the stories behind them. From his early months of babyhood in Dothan, Alabama to his second birthday party at his Great Grandmother’s home in Fort Pierce, Florida to our short stint of living in Guangzhou, China.
His face would light up whenever I told him how our beloved pug loved him so much when he was a baby. Gosh, how I miss that pug!
Our latest adventure has just recently begun: living completely on our own. Yes, we both just moved to our own place last week. My fiancé and I agreed to get this place together as the next step forward. A small place that we could temporarily call home, finally after living with my parents for roughly 8 years. All of us are still adjusting to the new routines, new environment, and trying to create our own normalities.
Home for my son has been his grandparents’ home, rightfully so since we did move in there when he was only under 3 years old.
“It feels so strange to live in an apartment.” He told me last night as he sat eating his dinner.
“Do you think you will love it here?”
“I don’t know yet. I like it but it will take time for me to adjust, Mommy.”
“I know, it is the same for me too.”
So onwards we go on this new chapter of our lives.
Happiest Birthday, my darling Pumpkin!
As a member of Johnson’s ABC Circle, I received early access to their products. All opinions are my own.
The first time I heard of Shiny Drops was during the ABC Circle (Asia Baby Care) kick-off in Shanghai earlier this year and they finally launched in Indonesia this November. YAY!
What is Shiny Drops?
Moms, we all know how difficult it is to brush our little one’s hair, right? Worry no more! Johnson’s created Shiny Drops range, which includes a shampoo and conditioner all infused with argan oil and silk proteins. This combo is designed to nurture the hair and give it a healthy shine, visible after the first use.
Take a look at the packaging. Too cute, right?!
My 3 years old niece was all over them from the moment she saw the gift box. Bravo Johnsons!
Why is Shiny Drops Different?
As with other Johnson’s shampoo range, they all contain no more tears formula. They’ve been dermatologically tested and proven to be hypoallergenic. With safe pH balance, they are suitable for the little princess and contains an anti-frizz formula.
Personally, I absolutely love the smell!
The bottles look cute enough that my niece couldn’t wait to take a shower. Mind you, terrible two have nothing on her! Usually, it took some coaxing and sweet talking just to get her to take a bath. So, Moms of strong willed little princess…this one will save your sanity – at least, a little!
Hair brushing and toddlerhood can be challenging so the conditioner really helps as the ingredients help to make tangled hair goes bye-bye.
After only one use, my niece’s hair became softer and so smooth.
I love that the range contains argan oil which is known for their great benefits for hair. Often called ‘liquid gold’, argan oil is an organic product extracted from the kernels of the argan tree, which is native to Morocco. It is extremely rich in beneficial nutrients including fatty acids and vitamin E. Its properties make it particularly beneficial for the hair and skin so adding them to toddler shampoo and conditioner? Brilliant!
Did I tell you how much I love the scents? It doesn’t smell like your typical baby shampoo. There’s a touch of sweetness in the smell. Reminding me of some expensive body spray or perfume but they are not overpowered. Kudos to the fragrance experts at Johnson’s for creating this scents. I’ve met them in Shanghai before during our ABC Circle Kick-off Event (will write a different blog post about this!).
The texture of the shampoo is also unlike your typical baby shampoo, they look somewhat like adult shampoo. I think I might try them myself to see since I have super fine hair with a sensitive scalp. Will update you later on how that works for me. The conditioner has a texture like grown-ups conditioner and a little goes a long way.
For full ingredients list, you can check out Johnson’s website.
The box also came with Shiny Drops Cologne! Again, I am in love with the smell. This is how the packaging looks like.
Should you get Shiny Drops for your little princess? Definitely! You will love how smooth and shiny their hair will look like. My niece doesn’t have a long hair (yet) but her hair looks amazing after several usages so far and her Mom is truly impressed.
One suggestion, maybe adding bottled pump for easier use will help us busy Moms but other than that this new product range has won our hearts.
You can now get Shiny Drops at any Indonesian leading stores.
I received Bio-Oil in collaboration with Female Daily and Mommies Daily for #BioOilLoveYourSkinandLife blogging competition. All opinions are genuinely my own. Please refer to my PR Page for more details.
Having flawless, radiant skin from top to toes has always been every women’s dream, right? We are always on the lookout for different concoctions to get there.
Famous for being the No. 1 stretch mark and scar remedy, Bio-Oil actually has more benefits than that. The possibilities are endless to use this oil.
Let’s examine the product closely, shall we.
What is Bio-Oil: It is a specialist skin care oil which contains the ingredients of PurCellin Oil, vitamin A, vitamin E, natural plant oils: lavender, calendula, rosemary oil and chamomile. This rare blend of essential, natural plant oils and vitamins has been clinically proven to combat signs of aging, reduce stretch marks and scars. Not only that, they also hydrate and balance the skin. They are also hypo-allergic so it is ideal for those with sensitive skin.
For stretch marks: You can apply Bio-Oil to help to prevent stretch marks or improve the appearance of existing stretch marks. Using your fingertips, massage Bio-Oil into the skin twice a day. If you are pregnant, Bio-Oil is best used starting from your second trimester. A clinical study in 2010 has shown 100% of subjects reported improvement in 8 weeks and 90% of subjects said Bio-Oil reduce pigmentation.
For scars: Bio-Oil can help reduce the appearance of old scars and new. Gently massage the oil into the scars twice a day.
I am using Bio-Oil for some scars on my feet – I am one of those people who are prone to have keloid after even a mosquito bite! Although it will take sometimes to see actual real results, I like the fact that the Bio-Oil is not sticky and absorb rather quickly on the skin. It says on their product guidelines that it will take approximately 3 months to see real results and results are varied depending on the scar type and the person.
Also, I found Bio-Oil to be a very effective hydrating agent for my dry toes. It really softens my dry toes and absorb on the cuticles rapidly.
Perfect for all skin types, Bio-Oil is also non-acnegenic and can be used as a daily body and face moisturizer to replenish the skin’s natural oils.
Keeping your lips soft and moisturized by dabbing a small amount of Bio-Oil twice a day.
The nourishing properties can help to condition nails and cuticles. Bye bye, dry brittle nails! Have soft feet in no time!
Use Bio-Oil to prevent split ends. Put a small amount to the ends of your hair or massage into the roots to soothe a dry scalp.
I will share with you a DIY scrub recipe below to make a safe scrub.
Add a drop of Bio-Oil to your face for a dewy finish and let it dry before applying foundation. It is also the perfect treatment for uneven and dry skin.
A small amount on a cotton ball can easily erase even your waterproof eye makeup without making you looking like a raccoon or harsh on your delicate skin around the eyes.
What you need:
How to Make the Bio-Oil Scrub:
Viola! You just made yourself a fantastic natural facial scrub. Why is this scrub good for your skin? There are multiple benefits such as:
Have you ever tried Bio-Oil before?
After leaving the corporate world and focusing more on working on my own, I have been working non-stop. Life somehow becomes even busier than compare to when I was still working full time.
You really don’t think working from home means all I do is watching reruns of the Gilmore Girls, do you? Well – sometimes I do that when I needed a breather!
I am in love with what I do tho and fueled by passions, I don’t mind the busy and long hours I have been spending working. I am more grateful than ever that I finally have this chance to follow what I love.
Working, being a mom, managing a support group, and also preparing a big move, I am juggling all of these at the moment and I would love to have a little break. A weekend getaway, maybe?
As my family is preparing to move to two different places (I will be moving to my own place. Exciting!), I started sorting through my closet. After clearing out old unused and invaluable items, I realized I have a lot of clothing in great conditions that I never wear anymore. You really didn’t realize how much things you have until you took all of them out!
Preparing a move for the whole family means you discovered numerous household items that you either don’t use anymore or can simply do without. For example, I discovered my son’s stroller still in great condition and barely used.
Knowing I cannot take all the furniture into my new place and my parents couldn’t do the same, we collectively agree that we can sell these items.
Turning online, I started browsing along where we could sell our pre-loved furniture, household items and other things we simply cannot take with us as we move. Then I discovered OLX’s latest program #bekasjadiliburan and it give me some serious travel bugs seeing the prize up for grabs.
Let’s look at the website here:
Joining forces with Air Asia, OLX has a contest running from 14th November 2016 – 19th December 2016. With two Air Asia returns tickets to win for your next vacation to Singapore plus Air Asia Big Points to score, I am crossing my fingers here hoping we will get lucky.
Already a member at OLX, I realized this new campaign from OLX is not only brilliant as it emphasizes more than just getting rid of your unwanted items but also changes the focus to “Let’s see if selling my pre-loved items will get me to take that much needed holiday!” On my case, I need some mini getaway with my little boy. Maybe we could be lucky on his birthday month?
Oh, and if you are a new user, you can get double points too!
Ending the year the right way by downsizing, hoarding keeping fewer items at home and possibly win a fun vacation to Singapore? I’m in, are you?!
Share your experience online and tag OLX with #bekasjadiliburan. Want to know more about this program? Visit bekasjadiapapun/liburan.