About Moving

This post is long overdue.

If you’ve followed me on Instagram you’d probably seen some posts that indicated I had moved.

About Moving - Scoops of Joy

Yes, my son and I moved into our own place last December 2016. It is our first place since my divorce.  When I left my ex-husband, I moved straight into my parents’ home and that was well over 6 years ago. So when my fiance and I decided to get our own place, I was quite overwhelmed.

I was scared.

Scared because I was leaving my ‘safety backup’ aka my family. Without their support throughout these years, life would’ve been so different. Moving back in with my family hasn’t been easy too because for years even before I got married I was already living on my own. I left home when I went to high school in Jakarta while my family still lived in Kalimantan (Borneo).

Just come home…” to this day I still vividly remember the comforting sound of my father’s voice calling me all the way from Zambia as I cried over the end of my marriage.

So I came home…with my son.

My parents helped me so much, they help care for my son while I worked long hours. They gave us a home.

That’s why I was washed with all kinds of emotions as I prepared the move. Between the excitement of finally being back on my two feet, having a place I could call home, to the bittersweet of leaving my parents’ home.

As I started packing, I was swept away by a different kind of emotional waves. You know how somehow when you are moving you found things that you didn’t even realize you still have? It’s like traces of your memories came out of the closet – literally!

And that’s what happened. Pieces of evidence of my previous life came out scattered on the floor. From old Christmas cards friends sent to our old home in Dothan, Alabama to the newborn bracelets they put on our wrists after my son was born. Old documents for my previous green card, tickets stubs to the ultrasounds photos.

Hospital Newborn Bracelets

In an odd way, it feels like my old life came out in the open to be purged…to be cleansed to allow me to walk into the new life awaiting for us three. I decided to discarded plenty of those items that no longer serves me. We are moving to a small apartment so that alone put a limit of what we could bring with us.

This move is a big adjustment not only for me but also for my now 10 years old son. To him, home is his grandparents’ house where he’s been the golden grandson. So it is a big deal for him too and I had to lay down how different life will be for us.

With him starting a new school there’s a lot to take in. New home, new school, the new rhythm of our lives and we are still adapting, still adjusting. So far I am loving this little place I could call home.

Managing my own place again after all these years felt scary at first but this is growth, this is life and I am finding joy in being independent again.

How bout you? How many times have you moved house in your lifetime?



  1. robin Rue
    January 30, 2017 / 7:52 pm

    I have only moved once -into my house. I won’t move from here again until my boys have graduated high school and are off to college.

  2. January 30, 2017 / 8:13 pm

    I’ve moved several times during my lifetime. It’s always difficult because I associate houses with memories and feelings. It was so sweet of your parents to ask you to come back home. I know you made precious memories in those 6 years that you’ll never forget. Congrats on finding a new place.

  3. January 30, 2017 / 8:38 pm

    Aw, exciting times! Good for you! I’m glad you are doing well. I’m sure he will settle into the new routine before you know it!

  4. January 30, 2017 / 10:18 pm

    We were in the military and moved so many times. Everywhere we made new friends and loved everywhere we went. All about mind set. I have friends all over the world now.

  5. January 31, 2017 / 12:12 am

    I moved from the city into the country, I ended up having to move 4 different times in less than 2 years! It was exhausting, but I’m planning on moving back to the city next year (can’t stay away, haha!)

    xo, Lydia | wheretheprettythingsare.co

  6. January 31, 2017 / 1:15 am

    Moving effects us all regardless of the reason for moving. It may not be easy and may bring up some memories but it all works out for the best!

  7. January 31, 2017 / 1:41 am

    My husband and I moved from Florida to Colorado in August and it was a huge adjustment. We are settled and are loving it now! It just takes time! 🙂

  8. January 31, 2017 / 4:33 am

    I have moved a couple times in my life. The hardest was moving back in with my parents after being out on my own. Plus having a daughter in tow made it difficult to move both in with my parents and out when I finally was able to manage on my own. I know how difficult it can be.

  9. January 31, 2017 / 5:44 am

    I moved quite a bit in my childhood but in my adult life I’ve only moved twice. Actually we have been in one house for 17 years, this might be the longest I’ve ever lived in one spot!

  10. January 31, 2017 / 6:36 am

    I can relate with what you’re going through right now. It is difficult to let go of some things that have a lot of memories attached to it. However, I am happy that you are staying strong for your son and I am sure you will still have your parents’ support and guidance even if you are no longer living with them.

  11. January 31, 2017 / 8:25 am

    I moved so much as a kid you’d think I was a military brat. But no, a scientist’s child. When the mess was remediated, on to the next project. I’ve moved 8+ times in my life.

  12. January 31, 2017 / 10:39 am

    I have to say I love the way you tell the story. I could feel your pain after your divorce and “hear” your father telling you to come home. You were able to heal and grow over the years and now you’re ready to spread your wings again. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you. There may be a few bumps along the way in this adjustment (especially) for your son but you’ll get through it together. And you’ll still have your parents support. Great post!

  13. Anita Anderson
    January 31, 2017 / 8:17 pm

    I like you also moved from Rhode Island to New York. For my son, he gained a father and I a husband. A support we did not have. It was hard in the beginning for my son but he soon adjusted.

  14. February 1, 2017 / 3:31 am

    It must have been rough and a scary process but I am sure you made a great decision. I hope the best for you.

  15. February 1, 2017 / 9:04 am

    We have moved a few times, due to my husband’s job in the military. It is definitely a difficult thing to do.

  16. February 1, 2017 / 10:49 pm

    We have been in the same house for 10 years, which we bought a few months before our wedding. I want to move into something bigger, but hopefully in the same town so our sons can stay at the same school.

  17. February 1, 2017 / 11:30 pm

    It’s always scary when you’re about to enter a new stage in your life. I’m sure everything will be fine though. It’s nice that you’re finally getting your own place again, it’s a sign that you’ve overcome the struggles you’ve had before and you’re standing strong against them.

  18. February 2, 2017 / 5:16 am

    I have moved quite a bit in my lifetime. It can be very challenging, especially when you’ve associated the place with so many memories.

  19. Krystle Cook
    February 2, 2017 / 8:25 pm

    I have moved a couple of times and it can definitely be scary. There are times when I wanted to just throw in the towel but you’ve got this!

  20. Sara
    February 3, 2017 / 8:12 am

    What a beautiful heartfelt post! I hope you and your son enjoy your new home and create new memories together.

  21. February 3, 2017 / 11:21 am

    Oh moving… I’m about to move into our new house which just so happens to be in a completely different state than I am now!

  22. February 23, 2017 / 12:55 am

    Stay strong mbak 🙂

    For me, I’ve moved few times (ngekos) to different cities. But it’s easier to life independently when you’re single like me. hehe

  23. May 28, 2017 / 8:46 pm

    Hugs hugs my dear.. I know you’ll make it! For different reasons, my family and I have been moving around f or at least 6 times, in 4 different countries ;). And tell you what, despite the excitement of the new adventure, insecurity steps in and make us feel unease. But again, we just have to embrace it and enjoy it!

  24. June 14, 2017 / 10:37 pm

    As long as it’s never been, I hope only once….

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