6 Outrageous Questions People Ask if You Are a Mix Couple

Indonesians in general are very friendly people. However our friendliness usually comes with small talks and boy, do we love them!

Here are the common things people in Indonesia will ask you once they: either see you have a mix children or downright see your foreign husband:

  • Is this your son?Uhm, no the hospital just handed him out to us to raise!
  • Where is your husband is from?Still planet earth!
  • What does he do?Yes, they like to know!
  • Usually the above question will be followed by the “Ah, how wonderful! He must be rich!” — Uhm, we don’t have a money tree growing in the backyard!
  • How did you meet your husband?Wish he come from a catalog then I can do a return 😉
  • Why don’t you have more kids, maybe you’ll be lucky to have a girl!If you want to take my place staying in bed for a month (at least)!

There are of course many variations to the above ‘questions’ but you’ll eventually get used to them although it can be annoying sometimes. Don’t even try to start bargaining with your foreign husband around!



  1. April 24, 2010 / 10:22 pm

    Hi Maureen!

    Hahaha…enjoyed this post. I normally get questions like ‘Girl right?’ (pointing/looking at my son who is all decked up in blue coloured clothing) or ‘He doesn’t look Chinese… more like ang-moh’ (means foreigner) to which normally I would replied ‘Yeah… I had an affair with Tom Cruise before I got pregnant’ 😛

    Thanks for dropping by my blog earlier & Happy SITS Saturday Sharefest to you too!

    • April 24, 2010 / 10:30 pm

      Hahahaha that gender miss-match happened a lot too when my son was a baby just like yours, even when he’s covered with blue from head to toe! LOL good come back with the Tom Cruise 😉 Love it!

      Thanks for the visit back 😀

  2. Heidi
    April 24, 2010 / 10:25 pm

    I pretty much try to avoid any small talks. I don’t want to know them, so they don’t need to know about me:)
    How are you, Yen? Udh ngilang bener2 dari fb yah. Miss you girl.

    • April 24, 2010 / 10:31 pm

      Heidiiiiiii….how are you? Yes, I decided to backed out of FB for now and honestly it feels better this way. Maybe someday I’ll come back but I’m not sure yet 🙂 I’m doing good, Heidi, how are you girl? Hope all is well. Miss you too! Oh yeah the small talks, sometimes you can’t get away from them!

  3. Aging Mommy
    April 25, 2010 / 6:36 am

    Oh wow – talk about being upfront! A different culture altogether! Thank you so much for stopping by my blog today and Happy Saturday SITS Sharefest to you too. Great post – an interesting life you lead.

    • April 25, 2010 / 1:29 pm

      Yes, it’s funny how I grew up with this kind of culture and the small talks but after being away just for a few years, coming back and first heard these questions I was like “WTH?” LOL!
      Thank you for your visit and comment 🙂

  4. April 25, 2010 / 11:54 am

    Hi, Oyen, how have you been, girl?

    I really enjoy your website. Your writings are casual and enjoyable. It’s an easy-reading stuff, but somehow connected to me (well, maybe because we both are married to foreigners, Americans to be precise), so your writings are so representative! Everything I have in mind about living in Indonesia [as a wife of a foreigner], you have presented in print perfectly. But MOST important thing of all, you have inspired me to WRITE again. I used to like writing too, but somehow the daily hectic schedule has evaporated my hobby of writing, or maybe it’s simply laziness that engulfs me… hehehe… but thanks for being so inspiring!

    • April 25, 2010 / 1:30 pm

      Teh Ima, I’m good, I’m sending you an email in a few. Thank you so much for stopping by and your kind comment. I’m so touched! Wish I can take pictures as good as you! Hugs!

  5. April 25, 2010 / 2:20 pm

    haha I like your sense of humor with the answers to those questions 😉 did you actually test them in reality?? Don’t forget us to tell the results LOL
    Thanks for stopping by my blog!

    • April 27, 2010 / 1:22 pm

      Hi V, yes I tested a few to strangers and usually they’ll stop the ‘interrogation’, some wouldn’t get it and march away with the questions. The most interesting question I got so far was when I went alone into this small shop and was trying on a few blouses the girl there said “Are you married to a white guy?” and I asked her if she’s a paranormal? LOL. She said she can just tell by my ‘style’ and how I dress up which according to her is very different than these posh mommies here.

      Appreciate your visit V! 😀

  6. April 26, 2010 / 12:10 am

    Haha that is so funny! To me it sounds like people are just being very nosy but I guess they are just very interested in something that is different to them. That’s cute they ask about having a girl. Your comments are so funny in response to their questions!

    Thanks for visiting my blog! 🙂

    • April 27, 2010 / 1:25 pm

      The curiosity is borderline being super nosy for sure, especially when you’re dealing with the older people, they just doesn’t care anymore and ask whatever question popped in their heads LOL. One time someone asked my mother is my youngest brother who have a very light skin (both of them can pass as white guys here) is my husband and the father of my son. It cracked me up so bad I replied “Yeah, I like me some youngen!”

      I enjoy your visit back, Caity. Hope you are feeling better girl!

  7. April 26, 2010 / 9:37 pm

    No problems for us here in Thailand… most locals cannot believe we are not Thai, even after talking to my hubby. The few sentences he knows, he nails them down really well. Nice to pass off as locals, since we get to pay local prices (as much as 50 – 60% discount sometimes) at tourist sites.

    • April 27, 2010 / 1:26 pm

      Hi Serline, oh that is so neat you guys get the local prices! It’s horrible trying to bargain here with my husband around, they will always give me a look if I start bargaining. Thanks for your visit back 😀

  8. April 27, 2010 / 4:38 pm

    Pinoys are a very friendly bunch, too. Sometimes however, some people (especially the older ones) ask things that are a little too intrusive. My relatives and some family friends always ask me and my brothers when we plan to get married and how come I don’t have a boyfriend (ugh!). These topics usually crop up during the Christmas season, which I have now learned to dread.

    Thanks for the comment. Stopping by from SITS. 🙂

    • May 6, 2010 / 1:13 pm

      Hi Rachel, oh yes the family gatherings will surely bring these questions out huh? LOL Same thing here…it’s easier to ‘ignore’ if it comes from strangers but from families sometimes it is harder to dodge.

      Thank you for your visit back 🙂

  9. Farra
    May 6, 2010 / 3:04 am

    I found your blog website from Time Out Jakarta.
    Really enjoy reading your blog.

    • May 6, 2010 / 1:14 pm

      Hi Farra, thank you for the visit and kind words. I’m happy to know you enjoy reading my blog 🙂

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