25 Things I’ve Learned From Long Distance Relationship

Here are just some random things I realized from being in a long distance relationship.

  1. There will be days where you woke up feeling you miss them more than before. So much more that you started crying just because you can’t help it.
  2. You have become so attached to your mobile phone just so you can reply all their messages right away.
  3. Poor connection on Skype during the weekends will be your new normal.
  4. Your heart will feel heavy when you see other couples holding hands out in public.Don’t even get me started on seeing other people hugging! You wanted that to be you and your lover.
  5. You just want to stay home all weekend long so you can spend it on Skype! Weekend Plans
  6. There will be days where you catch his scents…his perfume and you pray for some Godly magical power that he would be there as you turn around. But no, it’s just a random thing. Still, his smell will awaken the deep longing inside you and your heart aches a little more than usual.
  7. There will be days/nights where you must sleep with his/her t-shirt with tears pooling on your pillow.
  8. Sometimes life plays a joke and suddenly you hear ‘your song’ play out and you wish you are next to your lover again as the song plays.
  9. You have to rely on words…lots of words. Written or spoken because you are not together under the same sky.
  10. You hate holidays or birthdays where you can’t be together. You won’t feel like celebrating anything when you are many miles apart. Yet you live on, hoping the next holidays or birthdays you will reunited.
  11. You can’t wait to share everything with your significant other the goods and the bad, you wanted to instantly tell them but sometimes you have to wait especially if there are time differences involves.
  12. You become an expert at reading your lover’s facial expressions thanks to Skype or FaceTime.
  13. You eagerly do the countdown until the day you are together again. You cross the calendar daily like an eager school girl.
  14. Your heart still beats a thousand times faster standing at the airport waiting for him to walk out. No matter how often you have done this. The butterflies will always be there!
  15. You absolutely cherish the times you are in the same time zone, the precious times you are together. You make the most of the days you are together. You are making memories together. Holding Hands
  16. You cry buckets of sorrow when you have to take him back to the airport. Airport goodbyes never get easier; if anything…it gets harder every time.
  17. You feel like a zombie for the next few days. Cry, Skype, chat, cry, Skype, chat…rinse and repeat. It is always difficult to settle back into ‘normal’ life without your lover.
  18. You write him an email every night – or nearly every night – even when you chat/Skype with them every day just to share with them how you really feel. You are creating an online footprints of your love story.
  19. Just as you cry a lot, you also need to be able to laugh together and just be silly or else you might go crazy!
  20. You realize you both still have to grow individually. You still have to live and do your own thing.
  21. You have to be strong and brave. Long distance is not for the faint of hearts. You must keep the faith that all the tears, all the pain and all the distance will be so worth it at the end.
  22. You are grateful for the many apps available today that makes long distance relationship a little easier. Yes, thank you Skype, Google Hangout, etc…you are our lifeline!
  23. You make time to communicate each day no matter how busy your schedule is. That’s how you show you care.
  24. You realize how sometimes it is easy to take things for granted but thanks to being in a long distance relationship, it teaches you to appreciate the little things a lot more. Like cooking dinner together or watching a movie or even just to hold hands.
  25. You realize that faith is a beautiful thing and your love will endure.

Well, that’s quite a list, hey?! Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? Feel free to share your story too.

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  1. December 3, 2014 / 10:12 pm

    sounds familiar :p
    hopefully semua penantiannya untuk bersama segera berakhir ya Yen 🙂

    • December 19, 2014 / 1:19 pm

      Amen to that, girl!
      Danke ya schatje! 😀

  2. December 4, 2014 / 1:34 am

    Been there done that. Unfortunately mine was not a happy ending one. I truly hope for the happiest ending for both of you. 🙂 XOXO

    • December 19, 2014 / 1:20 pm

      Aww thank you mak! Hugs!!!!

  3. December 4, 2014 / 1:09 pm

    I want to add one; when I was in a long distance relationship with my then boyfriend now husband, everytime I looked at the fullmoon, I wondered whether he saw it too where he lived. So cheesy but it kept me believing in our relationship.

    • December 19, 2014 / 1:21 pm

      Awww…that is beautiful and oh so true! I think about similar things a lot. Thank you for sharing your own experience mbak!

  4. Opi
    December 4, 2014 / 4:54 pm

    Oyeeeeennn, i do not know whether to cry or laugh to this post! I feel you though. I had a LDR once.

    Come to think of it, so long we’re not under the same roof, it feels kinda LDR anyway to me, LOL. My boyfriend lives in Jakarta Selatan and i’m in Jakarta Pusat yet i tell him every now and then, “come and take me with you please. hurry, hurry be mine.”

    Kinda tacky, right? =))

    Distant hugs to you there. You will be together soon before you know it.

    • December 19, 2014 / 1:22 pm

      Hahaha thank you Opi sayang!

      Thank you for sharing your own stories. Uhm and yeah with Jakarta’s crazy traffic, technically you are in a LDR with your boyfriend hahaha. Love ya, girly!

  5. January 3, 2015 / 11:58 pm

    My husband’s work requires him to travel often –and often for longer periods (anytime between 2 weeks to 8 months at a time). So much of what you listed resonates with me!

    It sure takes a lot of patience, commitment and late night Skypes (especially when they’re on the other side of the world!). Somehow we’ve held it together for 15 years 🙂

    • January 4, 2015 / 1:05 pm

      WOW congrats for 15 years, Shelly! I absolutely love reading stories like yours where it shows long distance really do works even against all odds. Once my fiance and I get married we both realize he would still have to travel for works so it won’t be a huge surprise but I’m sure it would feels slightly different after you got married? Oh yes, late night Skype. Time differences can really make Skyping hard lol but I love every moments of it 😀 Thank you for sharing your story.

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