We have all been on the receiving ends of unnecessary, negative, or downright nasty comments.
Here’s a way of keeping negativity from holding you back, angering you , or stopping you from focusing on what’s really important.
Here’s a quick example that I’ve faced once too many times:
At a recent parent teacher meeting a young teacher who happens to teach religion to my son took it upon himself to ask personal questions to me like:
“How long have you been divorced?”
“Is the father here?”
“Is he remarried?”
And so on and so forth, these questions not only made me feel uncomfortable, they h nothing to do with how well my son was doing at school. So I thought to myself, what is the best way to deal with ridiculous comments from others?
Here’s my answer:
Create yourself an imaginary SPAM BOX!
Remember what’s important to you in any given situation. Next time when I sit down with that same teacher I will make sure I remind him what I’m there for, to see that my son is getting the best education possible, and that he is making progress in class, so if the teacher makes a comment about something I feel is not relevant, I will put that comment straight into my “Spam Box” and remind the teacher what is important to me.
It is so important with the busy lives we now lead to make the most of our valuable time, so deleting comments that have no relevance, or finding a “Spam Box” for them is a great way of moving forward.
We all get so many comments from well meaning friends, family and others we come into contact with who either have there own agenda or reasons for strange things they might say, the best we can do is put those aside and move on to what is important to us.
Concentrating too long or not knowing what to do with a certain comment can be upsetting , so my advice to you is find a place for those comments, put them in their place and move on to a positive place that helps you get the information you need or gets the subject back on track.
Asking why that person made that comment to find out what is behind it can be helpful in certain situations, but in a situation where time is limited like a parent teacher night, we need to stay focused and on track.