“I try to remember that there is a person behind a written text on my computer screen…” said one of my friends.
After reading the comment from a reader on my post about 4 Biggest Misconceptions About Secretaries, my first reaction was “What??! WOW!” Then followed by self doubts like “Maybe writing/blogging really isn’t my forte…”
“Going to be difficult to convince people you are more intelligent than they give you credit for when the title of your post is grammatically incorrect.” – Peter in UK.
That short sentence taken me by surprise left me with a bad feeling inside about my whole blogging endeavors. “What if I really do royally suck?”
Again, I hate hate hate using the “English is my second language” defense because I want to be a good writer/blogger. I don’t want to blame every single mistake on that fact alone.
Having English as my second language, it is a continuous learning process in which I am bound to make mistakes, typos here and there. Aren’t they just part of the process? No one can reach that perfection without practice. There are native English speakers out there who can’t even spell, believe me I work with some of them.
I can accept constructive criticism on my writing and I actually love that because it makes me want to do better. I even have a native English speaker friend who offered to be my ‘editor’ and read my blog posts first but I’d rather try to do it myself.
To just drop a criticism out loud and belittle me did hurt but I can move past that. In all seriousness, if you see my typos, sentences drenched in grammatical mistakes then by all means, do let me know so I can fix it…so I can learn. Just because I wrote a wrong title doesn’t mean I am not intelligent.
Sure I’ve made mistakes/typos before and there were friends who graciously let me know about it so I can get around fixing it and learned. Did it upset me? No, I was thankful they noticed what I had missed.
Two dear friends (Maria from Bicultural Mama and Aubrey from Way Too Much Aubrey – thanks, ladies!) came forward to replied to my new friend Peter – which I am grateful for because they believe in me. They didn’t see my typos or grammar as a big deal although I would love to be a flawless writer like lots of my favorite bloggers out there.
Criticism can be difficult to digest but maybe just maybe if you wrap it up in a good way then the people on your receiving end can actually accept it with a big heart and use it to better themselves.
So no, I’m not going to let one comment (and what followed thereafter) stop me from doing what I love, which is writing/blogging. Besides, I put my self out here on the blogosphere so I should toughen up and deal with criticism or the advise for me to seek refuge from hell-fire. Copyblogger had a really good piece about How to Handle Criticism.
What’s the worst comment anyone’s ever left you? Has anyone ever left a comment on your blog that made you go “What???” or “WOW that’s harsh!”? How did you handle it?
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