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In today’s very social world I think I’m not that social after all…
Did I catch your attention?
If you nod then that’s good! Why don’t you take a sit, while I pour coffee, or tea or whatever you like to drink.
Yes, I have enjoyed and savoring the online world a lot in the past decade. Have met and make great friendships along the way too.
For the past 10 years I had my share of fantastic meet-ups with people that used to be just pictures and names on the screen. The not-so-cool meet-ups were also part of the trade. Maybe it’s yin and yang…maybe it was just my luck, who knew for sure.
But since what happened in 2008, I found myself holding back a little from meeting these online friends/acquaintances in real life.
Chit chatting online and meeting in real life are different things and it always made me nervous.
Now that we’ve been living back fully in Jakarta for over a year now, I still don’t have that many friends in real life. Maybe I do suffer from being anti-social? Or I’m being too cautious? Could very well be!
One girl once told me “Hey, that mix couple group has regular gatherings in Jakarta, you should join them.”
Honestly, I’d rather not. Call me cynical but let’s be honest, most of these so-called Mrs. Bule clubs are full of women totting designer purses, while parading their real cleavages.
Networking or beauty/rich competition? You be the judge!
I would rather meet real people that I knew online who are not shallow and will not inspect me from head to toe to see if they can spot a designer label attached on me. Oh yes, they would all be super sweet in front of you but then starts gossiping about you behind your back. Come to think of it, it’s actually the ‘aftermath’ that I can’t stand.
Back in the States, I had seen this type of ‘community’ and there were always catfights involved so I had kept my distance since we moved out of the States in 2008 and since I was backstabbed. Again, not all of these women are like these of course there are still real genuine people that I am lucky to call as friends.
One of my best friends – who is still single btw – can’t believe how tough friendships between Mrs. Bule can be when I told her all about it. Well, it’s real kiddo! I think Bravo could come up with a hit reality series of Real Housewives featuring these Mrs. Bule!
Yeah, I think I’d rather be somewhat anti-social than be part of the soap operas.
How do you feel about meeting your ‘online friends’ in real life?