And We Are Free

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I thought that day will never come…

Seriously, I had vented out about it last year. I bribed, I begged, I yelled, I came to a near mental breakdown, I blamed myself…

Lil’ A has managed potty (read: peeing) so well since he’s around 2 years old. Before he turned 3 years old, he can do it himself and proud at it. BUT there’s one deep dark secret that was somewhat embarrassing…for number 2! Gasp!

For some unknown reasons he refused to sit and go potty. He became attached to his pull-ups which he only wore when he have to go poo-poo. I had bought God only knows how many potty training aids to help him fight off whatever it is that scared the bejeesuz out of him. Read the second line please! He would threw the biggest fit ever if I say NO when he asked to put it on and to be honest it was driving both of us crazy so I finally threw my hands in the air and let him be but one thing I demanded was he stays in the bathroom while doing his ‘business’.

This went on for months. It caused huge fights between Mr. X and I because he said I am not being consistent with training him. Well, dude…I usually only met our son for a few hours a day because of my work! To fight him constantly would only drive both of us mad and I was too tired for that. I didn’t push him! He went on to blame the nanny – even telling me I should fire her behind because she’s not helping. Can I insert WTF here? Yeah, there you go!

Seriously…I know it was bad and I too was starting to worry that I am losing this tug-of-war and with him already in school – I was sure he would be in pull-ups to poop for the rest of his life! I was worrying he would be in adult diaper because he had maxed the largest pull-ups size they have available here (XXL!) But my exhausted self – mind you I used to work long hours but now currently on a month long break from work – just was too tired to keep fighting.

Then one day…

Mommy, I want to go poo-poo in the toilet like a big boy.” He walked casually into the bathroom, picked up his Mickey Mouse themed toilet seat and handed it to me.

In that moment, I felt like the sky opened up and angels sang! Did you know I feel like I could kiss the bathroom floor and wail HALLELUJAH?!!

Ever since that day 3 weeks ago he has been completely pull-up free. No more tears. No more fighting. No more begging – from his Mommy’s part. He did it all himself. He said “I’m a big boy. Pull-ups are for babies!” Oh be still my heart!

So I guess by letting it go, by not pushing him and letting him take the lead and keep telling him there is nothing to fear from sitting on the toilet made him took the wheel himself and decided he had enough.

Now that we are completely free from pull-ups I see him differently…he’s no longer my Lil’ A…he is blossoming before my very eyes…but I know in my heart he will always be my baby.

Did you ever had potty training nightmare? How did you handle it?



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7 Comments on And We Are Free

    • Maureen
      September 17, 2011 at 11:42 am (6 years ago)

      Thank you Alison 🙂

  1. Vanita
    September 16, 2011 at 5:38 pm (6 years ago)

    you mama of one is doing better than me mama of 4. my first girl was out of diapers by age2. The 2nd girl was out of diapers by 18 months. My youngest girl who will be 2 next month is ready to use the potty. Damian? my only boy who is 3 will not use the damn potty. once he peed in it. once! we’ve been having the same struggle, but when i make him go without diapers, because he’ll still do number one and number two in the pullups, he refuses to go and won’t move his bowels at all. he held his poo in for 7 days the last time and i had to take him to the emergency room. he had two enemas while there and had to have one a day for 3 more days until we got everything out. enemas are traumatizing for adults, can you imagine for a 2 year old? so out doctor told us to wait it out a bit because if i kept trying to push him before he was completely ready he’d end up in the hospital again. so i’m waiting. and waiting. i suggest it and he says NoPotty mommy. little creep.
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    • Maureen
      September 17, 2011 at 11:44 am (6 years ago)

      Hang in there mama! I can relate to the frustration but from what I’ve read they said it is much easier with girls but look at me…Lil’ A will be 5 years old this December and he just mastered the art of sitting on the toilet a few weeks ago. There is hope!

  2. John
    September 16, 2011 at 8:43 pm (6 years ago)

    Congratulations.. and now you have a new weapon if he becomes a naughty teenager.. threaten to show all his friends your old blog! :))

    • Maureen
      September 17, 2011 at 11:45 am (6 years ago)

      Hahaha I do have pictures to back up my story as well 😉

  3. Sara
    September 17, 2011 at 4:54 pm (6 years ago)

    Congratulations! I am still trying to potty train mine he just turned 3, but i hear boys are harder to potty train than girls.
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